Invitations - Guests Rsvp-ing for people who aren't invited

Ahhhh....welcome to the word of "People Not Reading the Invite and Assuming Things"

You need to call and them "We are sorry for the misunderstanding, the invite was for you and Jim."

If they make a fuss tell them your venue does not accommodate children. Then tell them you would love to get together after the wedding.

There is nothing else to do with the invites that are out, except hope it does not happen again. If you have a wedding website you might put something there - I don't have a wedding website so I can't help there.

It will be interesting to see if the people here who think etiquette is stuffy and old fashioned, think these people have done anything wrong and how they suggest you deal with it.

It's amazing to me how many people managed to get to adulthood without learning any common etiquette.

There is nothing you can do to prevent more of this happening, but you can be ready with a prepared response.

"There must have been a misunderstanding. The invitation was for ___ and ___. We are unable to accommodate extra guests. If this means you will be unableto attend, we will miss you at the wedding."

Don't make excuses. It just sends others into problem solving mode. Not enough room? No problem, she can sit on my lap. Too expensive? We can share an entree. etc etc etc

Also, don't lie. If you say the venue doesn't allow childern and they do, you will be caught out and they may confront you on that. No need to go there.

Which website? Mine through Minted let me limit how many each guest could RSVP for. I would explore that option. Like a couple could only RSVP for two, they didn't have the option to add kids.

You'll have to call these guests though and say the invite was only for them.

That is a great idea. It's awkward, but I think you're right with being honest. We had to cut so many people out because of space and budget. I will use this. Thank you!

I say toggle the settings of your guest list. My friend limited this by having them type their name and it matching the list created by her. Also i used rsvpify and it allowed me to let 1 or 2 people RSVP per name if i gave them that option. Your settings may be too open for anything to rsvp

Same here.

we put the number of "seats reserved in your honor" because I have some cousins that live with my uncles/aunts still and we didn't want them to be confused ( we are not inviting cousins)

We are using paper RSVP's and I am bracing myself for the extra people. Read, people, READ! LOL! Do you see your children's names on the invite?