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Invitations for no plus ones?

Carissa Brittney, on February 24, 2017 at 9:47 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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I professionally addressed all of envelopes for our invitations. On the invites, I included the names of the people we were inviting (for example, Joseph Fl****). We are not inviting plus ones as this wedding is small and just our closest family and friends. Do people assume they get a plus one? I asked our guests to RSVP on our wedding website where I made it so that they could only reply for their party (for instance, Joseph can only click 1 will be attending). Is this enough or do you think people may assume they can bring a guest? Do you think I should mail our RSVP cards as well where it is more explicitly stated that their invite is simply for them? If so, how should I state this?

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Latest activity by Jillian, on February 24, 2017 at 10:14 PM

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Laura · on February 24, 2017 at 9:57 PM
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You could also say immediate family only.
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Miami2NorthernVA · on February 24, 2017 at 10:12 PM
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On the RSVP cards people use "x seats have been reserved in your honor" and then "__ our of x will be attending".

If you already have the RSVP cards, you should include them in the invites even if they are RSVPing online. Yes some people will assume they get a plus one.
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Jillian · on February 24, 2017 at 10:14 PM
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I would err on the side of caution and send RSVP cards. People may assume they get a plus one, or that the RSVP website isn't functioning properly. There have been brides posting about getting RSVPs back where people have written in "+2" when they weren't allotted, and if that happens, phone calls will need to be made.

We're holding an adult-only wedding, so on the invitations it was "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" instead of "The Smith Family". Those that got plus ones were addressed "Mr. John Smith and Guest", and those that were invited as solo guests were simply "Mr. John Smith".

On our RSVP cards, we had "[blank] seats have been reserved in your honor. [blank] will attend", where I'm filling in the first blank, and the guest is supposed to fill in the second blank. This way, if they do try to pencil in add-ons that aren't budgeted for, I can place a firm yet polite call informing them that there are only two places for them.
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