Invitations and Coworkers

You shouldn't invite anyone to the ceremony that is not also invited to the reception. It comes off as extremely rude. I just wouldn't invite them at all if you can't fit them in the reception. You're not obligated to invite bosses or co-workers anyway, especially if you don't hang out with them outside of work.

I'm usually one for doing what you want, but I have to say, don't invite them to only the ceremony. It's an awkward moment all around. I would just leave it alone and not invite them to anything.

You can just claim you had space and budget limitations, they don't know how big your church really is or how large your budget is.

What do i say when they ask if they are invited...i already know some will? I guess i felt guilty because they want to have a bridale shower for me.

I am in the same situation, I have already told people who have asked at work "Due to budgets and limitations on space, unfortunately I can extend an invitation. I wish I could but we are at capacity."

I don't hang out with anyone from work anyways so it doesn't bother me. They all understand. One lady said she was just going to show up and I told her if she did she would be turned away at the door.

All you have to say is "unfortunately, due to venue limitations and budget constraints we are having an intimate event with family and close friends" They shouldn't be asking though, that's just awkward and rude.

I agree with the others - it's best to not invite them at all rather than inviting them to the ceremony only. If they ask just let them know that you wish you could have invited everyone but couldn't due to space / budget.

I highly doubt your co-workers would even know that they weren't invited. Just have a private convo with those you are inviting... and let them know to keep everything on the DL.

It really is awkward! I dont know what to say when they do ask. But thanks for the advise i will definitley use it!

Are you talking about your wedding openly in the work place? That could give them the impression that they are being invited. Try to keep details to yourself so that they don't get the wrong idea.

I only talk about it when they ask me questions. Theyve actually asked why i dont share more detail.

I have a little bit of the same issue. I'm inviting the 2 ladies I work closest with and maybe my boss (and they all know they are the only ones invited). When others ask about details, I just mention we're keeping things really small and simple, and so far, no one else has assumed they're invited.

"We are keeping the wedding small and we had to make some difficult choices. Thank you for your good wishes."

Don't talk about it.

My 2 cents, You don't say anything. If they're not invited to the reception then don't talk about it at work.

I don't get into wedding details at work with co-workers since we're not inviting any. Technically we're each inviting one co-worker, but because they are close friends. When I talk w my friend at work it's privately and after hours. When it comes up with others I say we're keeping it small and having family and close friends only. And I change the subject to something about one of them. That always moves the conversation off me.

My high school students, however, have been told by me very clearly that we're keeping it small, and that we can't afford to have them at the reception, but if they'd like to go to the ceremony that they will be welcome at the church. There are about a dozen girls who swear they'll be there, but come October I don't think any will actually slow. No problem either way. They're not gutsy enough to try to crash the reception, but if any are I'll have no problem bouncing them myself!

I don't talk about it at work. And that's why they seem to ask. One even said "you never talk about your wedding...most brides that's all they talk about" LOL!!!

@Liz and @FutureMrsK, Im with you!