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Laura
Savvy September 2021

Invitation Wording

Laura, on December 28, 2020 at 3:06 PM Posted in Planning 0 6

Hi everyone,

I hope y'all had a great Christmas! I am here to receive some input on invitation wording. To start, I have seen a few options such as "With their families..." "The honor of your presence..." listed but I was wondering what the protocol is when one set of parents is hosting the wedding? It has become a sensitive topic for my future in-laws. My Mom is paying for and hosting the wedding (my Dad passed away a few years ago) so I had envisioned it would say something like: [Mother's name] requests the honor of your presence at the marriage of her daughter...followed by our names. My question is whether or not there is any rule on if the groom's parents have to be listed on the invitation. I do feel it is important to have my Mom's name listed. My future MIL has already given me a lot of trouble through the planning process (the typical "It's your wedding, whatever you want" but then getting upset if it is not what she envisioned or had in mind) so I want to honor what we would like without any drama. Thank you all for your input!

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Latest activity by MOB So Cal, on December 29, 2020 at 8:51 AM
  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    If your mother is paying for the entire wedding and wishes to have her name on the invitation, I think the most diplomatic way to do it would be as follows....

    (Bride’s mother’s name) cordially invite you to the wedding of their daughter (daughter’s name) to (fiancé’s name), son of (grooms mother and father‘s names).

    This clearly states that your mother is hosting the wedding, but also includes the grooms parents names on the invitation, so they do not feel as though they have been overlooked, slighted, etc.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Totally agree with this!
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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
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    I love what pp said
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Chrysta is on point! Your mom should be acknowledged first since she is hosting the wedding.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    This is what we did, as my parents (dad and stepmom) helped pay for most of the wedding.

    Caveat: ...this angered my mother so much, she hasn't spoken to me since. (This is a win for me, she's toxic.)

    SO. If someone is super sensitive about names/finances/etc.... there may not be a "solution" other than, "this is what you and FH are comfortable with" and can justify.

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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    This is pretty much what daughter did: "Mr and Mrs Jones request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Anne Marie to John Patrick, son of Mr Smith and Ms Clark...." (SIL's parents are divorced.)

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