Invitation wording

If you want formal attire then you should put formal if you want suits and long gowns. I think formal reception to follow is good wording. Instead of listing adult only just be sure to specially name who's invited on the inner envelope. If you made a wedding site you can more informally put it's adults only and a formal affair

Formal attire sounds good. I would state that the wedding is adults only. I have seen Brides vent that they didn't put that and tried other methods and people assumed their kids could come. Be transparent so no one tries anything.

View Quoted Comment Sadly people do not read those sites. I don't. Best to state on invitation so they know. I have seen not staying that backfire and people try to rsvp their kids. Brides wish they did state it.

View Quoted Comment Exactly that’s my point. I absolutely do not want people trying to bring kids or coming dress inappropriately.

The best way I’ve seen to convey adults only is I had a friend put ___ of ___ adults attending on the RSVP card. Also address it to just the adults. I wouldn’t put anything about attire unless you’re having a black tie wedding. I would just make sure your invitations are formal and no graphics or anything.

View Quoted Comment Agreed Kristen! There are many of our guests who will not look at the website. I just don’t want anyone thinking that it’s cool for them to bring kids or whatever.

View Quoted Comment I feel nicely be up front so they know. I agree with Rachel too place the names of those invited and maybe on the rsvp state that they are invited to an adultd only wedding or may an 18+ wedding and reception, pending the age you prefer. Maybe on the website restate and even say while you love kids the wedding is adults only and hope that parents will still attend (or some better wording lol)

View Quoted Comment Hi Kristen! We will indicate the blank of blank seats on the response card. And yes our invitations are formal and will be addressed only to the adults.

View Quoted Comment Okay I will add that to our website as well. Thanks! 😊

View Quoted Comment Agree with all of this. Your venue and invitation should convey the formality of the event.

View Quoted Comment That might be a discreet but up front way too.

The invitation should specifically say "Formal (or Semi-Formal) Adult Only Ceremony and Reception"

If you don't spell it out in the invitation you will have problems.

Well we are being very specific on invitations and RSVP card. We have reserved 2 seats in your honor. And names will be listed. No time for people to assume their children is invited. Our wedding website said to please adhere to the number of seats reserved per household . Our invitation company been in business over 30 years they were very helpful in ensuring we had the EXPLICIT and direct wording. Also I will be making calls for each RSVP per household. The teacher in me ohhhh I have No problem addressing the situation nicely on head count.

View Quoted Comment I️ really Like this! We’re having an adult only wedding as well. Will definitely take this approach.

I've never seen attire listed on an invite, only on websites. The only time I've seen it referred to on a website is a black tie wedding so "black tie formal" referred to more than just dress code.

View Quoted Comment Hahah Eshell we think just alike. That’s the teacher in me too. I did indicate that on the rsvp card. I will update our wedding website too.

View Quoted Comment Yes lady ! Like we really can’t afford to give families of 5 a plated meal for $150.00 change sorry .... moreover , everybody and their children. We are very fine and will be okay with declines.

EACH at that too...