Invitation wording re: kids

Put the adults names on the invitations. Do not put no kids on them, that's rude.

Don't have your invite say "adults only". Simply address your invites to the people who are invited. For example family members with kids that are invited "The Smith Family". Guests where kids aren't invited "Mr. and Mrs. Smith"

Yup what @LB said!

ETA: I don't plan on using the terms "no kids" or "adults only" on the actual invitations!

Just using those words to make the post

Exactly what LB says.

But you probably want to give a heads up as you talk about your wedding because people ignore this all the time.

(This is one of the main reasons we are including the kids. I don't need the hassle!)

You literally said: should I let people know ahead of time so they know their kids are invited when the invite says "no kids"

But okay... lol

It is rude to say who is NOT invited on an invitation. Just address the invitation to those who are invited. If your website has the capacity, they won't be able to add their children to their rsvp. You may get some phone calls. Have a response prepared.

"I'm sorry. We are unable to accommodate extra guests. If this means you will be unable to attend, we will miss you at the wedding."

I'm also doing relatives kids & BP kids. For their invitations, it was "The ___ Family".

For everyone else it's "Mr & Mrs ___ " or "Ms/Mr ___ & Guest's Name"

I'm doing online RSVPs through WW so they'll see that the only names I put on there are for the adults to RSVP. They can't add anyone extra, like their kids.

I meant that the invites would indicate, in the proper wording, that children are not invited. Who would actually use the words "no kids" on a wedding invitation? Did not think I had to be that specific. Just tried writing a question as succinctly as possible.

Thank you for advice.

Never say on an invitation who ISN'T invited. Just address the invitation to the those who ARE invited. If you want to be more clear, put on your reply card "__ of __ will attend." You fill in the second blank for each invitation, according to however many people you are inviting from each household, and let your guests fill in the first blank. If they have kids, that will make it clear that only the adults are invited.

You really can't do more than that without being rude, and you will probably still have people who will call and ask if they can bring their kids. You may even have people who will put "4 of 2 will attend," to passive aggressively try to include their kids, hoping you won't confront them.

Thank you. Will just put "The Smith Family" for when appropriate and "Mr and Mrs" for when that is appropriate and leave it at that. Will be ready for any questions that may come my way about children being invited.

Haven't spent too much time investigating proper invitation etiquette as of yet- hence why I am posting here.

Thanks for the comments

Just address the invites to the parents and on the RSVP say 2 seats have been reserved in your honor. Don't say that kids are not invited.

We are almost date twins!

Don't put that on the invitation, please.

If you must, I would say "Adults only," as opposed to "No kids." But it I'm reading your question correctly it sounds like there will be children at the wedding, just family only. If I saw that a wedding was adults only on the invite, I wouldn't expect to see any kids at all. Generally you want to apply rules consistently. I agree with others to just invite parents by name only on the invitation, which should be clear enough. Should is different than will be clear enough, so you may want to brace yourself for a couple of awkward conversations.