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Mob For Keely & Aaron
September 2019

Invitation wording, not happy with formality.

Mob For Keely & Aaron, on July 21, 2019 at 4:23 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12
I have the task of finding the right wording for my daughter’s invitations, she can’t look , she is so busy as it is. Info then your opinions.
1. My husband and I are hosting with finding all the vendors, paying for almost the entire wedding and reception which is in the evening, decorations, invites, to a meal with sans cocktail hour with canapés, plated dinner and dancing plus having to throw a shower ( glad the rules have relaxed on this).
2 The grooms family is graciously paying for the rehearsal dinner, grooms cake, bridal bouquet, corsages and boutonnières.
3. Groom is paying for honeymoon
I want to include the grooms parents with a line saying son of (their names). Is that ok?

Here is the part that I am not happy about, not anyone but wording. It’s the lack of well, my first name and the groom’s mother as well. It actually has nothing to do with me not getting recognition, both families know and recognize what we have been doing. It though feels old to have written out Mr. and Mrs.( mans name) last name. I like to know the modern alternatives for formality. Since it’s formal not sure if our names are suffice or if we can actually put Mr. Tim and Mrs. Robyn with last name. Opinions?

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Latest activity by Futuremrsk, on July 21, 2019 at 6:48 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I think that Mr. and Mrs. Smith or Mr. Joe and Mrs. Jane Smith would also work.

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  • Laura
    VIP November 2019
    Laura ·
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    I see no reason you can’t name yourself and her FMIL on the invitations. We are not in the 1950s!
    Also, bless you for all you’ve taken on. It’s an enormous task.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    You can say
    Together with their parents bride and groom invite you to their wedding.
    Or just Mr & Mrs LastName for both sets of parents.
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  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
    Fmv ·
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    Mr and mrs tom and sue jones. This is not the 1940s it does not need to be mr and mrs tom jones.
    Or to make it simple just write- with their families invites you to the wedding
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  • Danielle
    Devoted October 2021
    Danielle ·
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    My FH family isn’t really involved in our lives simply because they are just really toxic and I support his decision because he has good reasons but this has left us with my mom who is a single parent to pay for a lot of major things with zero help from his side of the family. This has made certain things weird like mother/daughter and mother/son dances and stuff so for invitations we are going to say something like together with their families because I’ve had enough questions to deal with and I don’t need everyone asking why my family is the only family name on the invite and I’ve honestly seen it done this way a lot!
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    Judith ·
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    Very often, in a formal invitation where people do not wish to strip the woman of her first name and name the couple Mr and Mrs John Williams, they follow the always correct use of naming each person separately, full names, with an "&" or "and" between them. Thus instead of Mr. and Mrs. John Williams, you refer to the bride's parents as : Mrs. Rebecca Williams and Mr. John Williams. Same as if they were people who are married but have different surnames. An "and" between them says they are married. Without the and, they could be siblings or cousins . This is also correct for the same reason on outer envelopes. It is the only other correct choice on something formal. Mrs. Mary and Mr. John Williams is really only okay on informal occasions. And use the same styling for groom's parents names. Even if they usually use Mr. and Mrs. Joe Doe, what you are doing is of correct formality, and both couples should have one line woman's name and next line man's. If divorced, no and, still one line each complete name . Just looked it up in Miss Manners to read to someone over the phone, this morning .
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  • Mrs. Rachel Lamb
    Dedicated October 2021
    Mrs. Rachel Lamb ·
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    How about this?

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  • Mob For Keely & Aaron
    September 2019
    Mob For Keely & Aaron ·
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    Thank you!
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  • Mob For Keely & Aaron
    September 2019
    Mob For Keely & Aaron ·
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    Very nice!
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  • Christine
    Savvy October 2019
    Christine ·
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    We wrote (groom first and middle name) and(bride first and middle name) humbly request along with our parents (mr & Mrs) and (grooms mom’s name his father is deceased) request your presence at our friends and family wedding. Dinner and dancing to follow
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  • Cathy
    Devoted October 2019
    Cathy ·
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    You could, as others have said, say both names. Joe and Jane Smith, together with Ralph and SarahJones, request the honor...
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    VIP August 2019
    Futuremrsk ·
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    Since both sets of parents are contributing as well as ourselves, we did "Together with their families" Brides full name and grooms full name, invite you to....

    It made it easier, got the point across. Our wedding is pretty formal, ceremony is in a beautiful hotel atrium, and reception is in a ballroom.
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