Invitation wording for my divorced parents - Please Help!

Following. I'm in the same situation.

I had a similar situation. My parents and FMIL (widowed) is paying for most of the wedding. We wanted to acknowledge them but not bring attention to FH's dad that has passed. It was pretty much impossible. So we decided to just say "Together with out families" since we are paying some too, very informal but it was the only way to do it. Plus we didn't want to have to have a lot of names and such all over the invite. Wanted to keep it simple. But we are going to do something big for them at the wedding/ RD.

To avoid all this we just put "Together with their families"

Everything else took up too much room.

But you could put Mr and Mrs AmanadsLastName (dad and stepmom) with Mrs. AmandasLastName (Amanda's mom)

My parents are divorced too and my dad is remarried but my mom passed away a few years ago. What I would do is say "The daughter of .... and ...." with "and stepdaughter of ....." below that, maybe in smaller letters. What do you think of doing that? Do you think your mom would be offended with your step mother's name on it, do you think your step mother would be offended if her name wasn't included? If you can sewer both of those questions then that should make the decision a bit easier. I hope that helps.

Oh yeah! "Together with our families" is also a great wording option!

Here is a proof of ours. It would have been way too much to add everyones names and then something for FH's dad.

ETA: sorry about the 5 posts. Computer froze!

I'm following also - in the same situation.

FH and I wanted "Together with their families" and FMIL was NOT okay with it. Her last name is different from FH's and she thinks her side won't know whose wedding they are invited to (this makes no sense to me either, but everyone is contributing and I want them all to be happy, so we just need to figure out a way to make it work)...

Right now we've got a template from our invitation girl that lists their names like this:

"Mr and Mrs Bride's Parents, and

Ms. Groom's Mom along with

Mr and Mrs Groom's dad and Groom's Stepmother

request the honour of your presence at the wedding of their children

Bride and Groom"

It looks so busy and so awkward. Anyone have any suggestions other than "together with their families"? I definitely want her to take out the Mrs and Mr 's and make the font of their names super small, but any other suggestions would be welcomed! Including to the "request the honour of your presence at the wedding of their children" part because it so wordy (it's on two lines and it needs to be one line).

Perhaps something like "Mr. & Mrs. John and Sarah F together with Ms. Jen Maidenname request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their daughter, Amanda F and FH...."

I think even though you aren't your stepmother's direct daughter, it still sounds better than separating her out from him and listing your relationship as step.

Holy list of people. The funny thing is your FMIL is adamant about this and no one really even notices. They look at the time and place and send back the RSVP.

I don't really know how you can shorten it if she wants her name on it because you have to include everyone. IMO its selfish of the parents, if you thank them at the wedding people will know.

Ugh tell me about it @Melissa. But she's pretty adamant. She said if we don't put all of the names she is going to print her own invitations for her side of the family...

Also I had to reprint my shower invitations to add her name in (for her side only) even though my mom and sis planned and hosted the shower. Luckily my mom didn't care otherwise I would have been in a really awkward position.

@Amanda sorry for kind of hi-jacking your thread but hopefully some of this is helpful to you too!

ETA: I just want to say, my FMIL is really awesome otherwise, but she is really hung up on the name thing - that is the reason I am trying to accommodate it even though it is a little bit driving me nuts.

@fmp She made you add her name even though she didn't plan or pay for it. Oh hell no. I would print your own and just have her do whatever the hell she wants for her damn family. That's just rude and your mom is a saint for not caring. Kudos to her

I like Chrissy's suggestion. I felt like together with our families was a cop out. Something like Mr. and Mrs Dad together with Ms. Mom.

It would typically be worded as follows:

Mr. and Mrs. Dad and Step mother

along with Mrs. Mother (and step-father if applies)

request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter

your name

to

Grooms name

son of

Groom's parents

Date, year, time location.

My parents are divorced as well but neither is remarried and my mom never changed her last name, FHs father passed away a few years ago and we didn't feel right leaving his name off of the invitations so we worded it like this

My name

daughter of

my parent's names

and

FHs name

son of

FHs parent's names

hope that you will join in this celebration on Saturday, the tenth of October

Two thousand and fifteen

and so forth...

My father passed away, my mom is remarried (and she and her husband are paying for most of the wedding), and FH's parents are divorced. We decided on

Dr. and Mrs. S joyfully invite you to the wedding of

My name to FH's name

children of the late Dr. L and Mrs. L S, Mr. P and Ms. P.

Super wordy but we got everyone's names on their and my mom was against "together with their families". You could do something like that format in order to get everyone in.

Otherwise, the format mentioned above with "Mr. and Mrs. Dad and Step mother

along with Mrs. Mother" would be less words and get everyone's name in.

I said my and my FH's name then along with their parents invite you to celebrate their union in marriage... Or something like that..

This is making me nervous, I'm in sort of the same situation... hoping I can get away with "together with our/their families", otherwise it's going to take half the page to list all the marriages and divorces. Ugh. I understand the name thing to a slight degree, but I would just tell FMIL to send an email to the people invited, mentioning they should see an invite soon (or whatever time frame you're looking at). Idk if that's etiquette or not, but it would save you some headache.

Have a very tricky situation. Brides parents are divorced and both remarried but only dad and stepmom along with grooms parents are hosting the wedding. Any suggestions on wording?