Invitation (want to include both parents first names)

Are your parents still married? I think the proper way is Mr. and Mrs. Max Miller for being a formal event. If you want your mothers first name mentioned I'd personally do Max and Sue Miller request...

Can you just say Max and Sue? I think including both “Mr.” and “Mrs.” and both first names always ends up being very wordy and awkward.

We did “Mr and Mrs Dad’s First Name Last Name” cause that’s what both my parents wanted.

If you want both their first names (we wanted that too) it would be Mr. Max and Mrs. Sue Miller.

Thanks all. B11 how did you determine to go with that format? Thanks!

Hey Carolyn! Welcome to the WeddingWire community!

How formal do you want the invitations to be? I would say that B11's idea would be the most correct and formal!

Thanks, Kelly. They are formal in that I am doing Mr. and Mrs. on the inner and outer envelopes and also that it is in a place of worship.

However, the Mr. Max and Mrs. Sue Miller sounded weird to me. Is Mr. and Mrs. Max and Sue Miller totally incorrect?

I mean if I were to put parents

Karen Smith
Daughter of
Tina Smith and John Smith......

same thing for the groom, good luck! I ended up not putting parents names on to avoid the drama of excluding the parents that didn’t help pay for the wedding. And the parents that did help were okay with not being on the invite as they didn’t want me to deal with the drama. I didn’t want both on as it was just to much on the invite

Hi Carolyn!


Curious what you ended up doing because I want to do the exact same! I’m with you! I think Dr. and Mrs. Allen and Peachy Seiden sounds perfect but am being told otherwise.
Would love to hear!
Thanks,
Brittany

I am mother of the bride.. I'm getting push back on my wanting my name on the invite.. Mr Richard and Mrs Lisa Cott sounds weird to me.. thinking of "Lisa Ann and Richard Brian Cott" keeping with the first & middle names for everyone - thoughts? Did anyone even comment about how this part of the invitation was worded?

How formal a wedding are you having? The rules of spelling out all usually abbreviated words, and using full formal names with titles, apply to the most formal weddings, white tie and black tie , all in tuxes, or daytime, men in cutaways, level of formality. Along with invitations that are engraved or embossed, and have no pictures or colors beyond an edging design. Most people, need not worry because other elements of their wedding are not that formal. If parents wish to present themselves with no titles, Robert Kaufman and Sylvia Kaufman, fine. .....,
Or Mr. Leonard Max and Ms. Sylvia Max. Mr. and Ms. Leonard and Sylvia Max is bad grammar, since the modifier title stays with each name. That is always out. I have always found it bizarre that formal custom is to use formal address and titles for parents, then only first or first and middle for the bride and groom. Like little Katy Lynn and Thomas are not adult enough for either last names or titles. I think for less than the most formal wedding, as long as you are consistent, all titles or none, or first and last of a married couple, James Kinson & Sue Kinson , or Mr. James Kinson & Ms. Sue Kinson present their daughter.... , rather than dropping the woman's first name, should be fine. Those are both fine in addressing envelopes, so why change?

Mr. Max & Mrs. Sue Miller is also an acceptable form to include both first names as well as indicate the two are married.