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Invitation rsvp problem

Latonya, on July 17, 2019 at 5:14 AM Posted in Planning 0 9

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Ok please don't come crucify me for my planning choices. I am merely asking for possible solutions from hear on out.
Ok so I am having a wedding of 50 to 60 people. My family is two states away and some will be flying cross country. His family is about 6 hours away. I planned this wedding in only 6 months , there wasn't any STD.
I sent invitations last month with a deadline of July 20th for list A. I was planning on sending list B as soon as I have a count from list A.

41 of 66 invites sent have gotten back. I sent a text reminder of the deadline 2 weeks ago which added some rsvps coming in. How do I find out if these people from List A are attending so I can move on to List B if need be? Do I just give them a few more weeks to RSVP? I want to fill at least 50 seats and give list B enough time to make arrangements. Everybody is far away! Suggestions please. Where do I go from here?

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Latest activity by Jolie, on July 17, 2019 at 11:24 AM

Master September 2019
Sarah · on July 17, 2019 at 5:34 AM
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You have to at a minimum wait until after your rsvp date to reach out to them for a response. Also, I don’t know too many people who can rsvp for something 3.5 months in advance so while I understand why you decided to make your rsvp so early, you may still have trouble getting answers from the rest of your original list.
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Dedicated November 2019
Latonya · on July 17, 2019 at 5:40 AM
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Ok so I just give them a month or so more time and just relax a bit? I don't want to be pushy.
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Melle · on July 17, 2019 at 5:41 AM
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Some people you just have to chase after for an RSVP unfortunately
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Formerbride · on July 17, 2019 at 7:41 AM
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I would let people go until 1 week after the deadline. Then ask them again giving them a specific date to RSVP. Let them know if they don't RSVP by that date you will count them as a no.
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ASMini914 · on July 17, 2019 at 7:51 AM
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I would text/call/email after the rsvp date (like on July 22) and say “hi, the rsvp date for our wedding has passed, and we haven’t heard from you. Will you be able to attend?”
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Becky · on July 17, 2019 at 9:56 AM
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You are going to have to wait until after your original RSVP date to bug people about it - and there are *always* people you have to bug about it. You may have people looking at the RSVP date and thinking it's a typo though. (The one time we had to RSVP that far before a wedding, we had to change from yes to no about a month ahead, because something came up (which we would have known about with a more standard RSVP date), so you may end up with that as well.)
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Jennifer · on July 17, 2019 at 10:44 AM
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I would wait until a few days the 7/20 deadline and then call them if you have their number! If they don't answer, I would leave a voicemail saying that you had not received their RSVP yet, and if they could get back to you by the next evening. People can ignore texts, but it is much harder to ignore a bride calling and leaving a voicemail!
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Kelly · on July 17, 2019 at 10:57 AM
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Wait a week until after the rsvp deadline and then call. If they don't give a straight response tell them they can't come because they missed deadlines.
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Jolie · on July 17, 2019 at 11:24 AM
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Wait a couple days after the deadline honestly only 2-3 days. You text/call/message them to follow up. Don't wait a month since you are on a time crunch to send out the B list if necessary.
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