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Invitation Help!!!

Caitlyn, on February 8, 2022 at 1:16 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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So, I have 11 months before our wedding and I'm trying to figure out our invites. Wedding is 100 people or less, dress casual, and only close friends and family. But we're on a tight budget and can't afford catering. Thus I'm DIYing a LOT!! But I've googled and searched, and can't find exactly what I'm looking for. We're going to kinda do a pot luck for the reception, and ask them to bring their favorite dish and the recipe. But how do I write that on an insert without sounding rude? I've already got a bunch of people on board, and got the idea from our venue who said that guests enjoyed it, and it was very successful. HELP!!! TIA

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Latest activity by Jacks, on February 10, 2022 at 2:24 AM

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bevbabe · on February 8, 2022 at 9:52 AM
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I would put "potluck reception to follow". We're putting "dinner reception to follow" on our invitations for our sit down dinner.
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KYLIE · on February 8, 2022 at 11:42 AM
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100 guests sure is a lot for a potluck. The main issue is that you'll most likely get a lot of the same/similar dishes, and some will go really fast while others sit out. The likelihood is high people will go hungry. A lot of people have become more wary with shared dishes since COVID, as well.
I've never been to any kind of potluck event, but from what I've read online, in the most successful events, the main dish is provided by the hosts (so like barbecued meats, hearty pastas, etc.) and guests are asked to bring a side dish that complements that (i.e. salads of any kind, bread, potatoes, etc.). So a wording on a details card could potentially be "We're so glad to have you as part of our community! The only gift we'd love from you is a dish to share—bride and groom will be providing xyz, and we'd love to try your favorite w, v or u at our potluck reception! Please bring a printed copy of the recipe so the bride and groom can recreate it for years to come."
It's not formal and goes against traditional hosting/etiquette, but potluck is never formal, so it might work if you're committed to this and your guests have really expressed interest??
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Gloria · on February 8, 2022 at 11:59 AM
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Maybe something like this?
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Jacks · on February 10, 2022 at 2:24 AM
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You haven't found the right wording because honestly pot luck is not a good way to host your reception. You're basically passing the costs off to your guests by making them pay for the food. In addition, you'll need to organize to keep all the food at a safe temperature. Any venue is unlikely to want to take on the liability for something like that.
Alternatives would be to have a morning ceremony and lunch reception with sandwiches and coffee/tea. Another idea would be an afternoon ceremony with coffee/tea and cake with a few veggie trays, as long as it's not at a mealtime.
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