As background: we live in Maryland and are not super close to this family in FL, which consists of Mom, Dad, and three adult children, some who have their own families (youngest is ~19). The oldest child is married with two small children and the youngest is a single mom to a misbehaved 1 year old.
One of my close cousins in Maryland got married in 2016 and ONLY invited the Mom and Dad from FL to her wedding. The Mom then threw a huge fit about not EVERYONE in the family being invited, didn't come, and it even resulted in some related family in Maryland not attending after already RSVPing. Obviously, feelings are still hurt about the whole thing and I feel the Mom is taking some of her hostility out by pressuring me to invite them ALL.
I feel obligated to invite at least the Mom and Dad like my cousin did since they are family and not inviting them could cause issues with related Maryland family. The Mom's comments make me feel obligated to invite all of them to keep the peace, but we were not planning on having children at the wedding, especially misbehaved toddlers. I cannot remember the last time I even saw the oldest married child and do not know his family or children at all. I know the other two adult children slightly more, but do not speak to them unless they are in town. I feel like inviting the adult "children" yet stating we are not having children at the wedding could be an issue in and of itself, even though I would at least be inviting them instead of just their parents. How can we handle this situation without causing an uproar or adding more stress to the planning process?
