Invitation Etiquette in the Face of a Break-Up

I'd say skip

Do not send her a STD...if you decide later, you can always still invite her to the wedding.

I'm trying to think about it from the guys perspective.. I was in a friends wedding, and she invited both my ex and I (before we broke up) she offered to disinvite him because I'm a closer friend, but I said no and that we are adults and that would be rude. In this situation, maybe talk to your guy friend and see how he feels about her being there (that is if you even want her there)

Skip it. She probably isn't expecting an invitation since she and your friend split up. She hasn't received a save the date or anything yet anyway.

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Talk to Mike and see how he'd feel about it if you feel strongly about inviting her. Some time will have passed by the time your wedding comes.

I'm inviting FBIL's ex because I grew really close to her while they were dating. I just gave him a heads up and he was chill with it.

It's your wedding. Invite who you want to be with. They can act like adults for one day.

Do you want her there? If so, chat with Mike and see how he would feel. I think you're good to skip the invite.

I was the Emily in a similar situation, and I got why my "verbal invite" wasn't followed up with a STD or invitation. I wouldn't have gone anyway.

Thank you everyone! I was leaning towards skipping her invite, but didn't want to be rude.

Skip it!

Did you say, "Can I get your address for a wedding invite?" or just ask? If you just asked without connecting the two, you're fine.

FBIL broke up with his girlfriend of a year the week we sent out STDs. I had addressed it to both of them and sent it to him. After he and I had our big sis-lil bro chat about the breakup, it occurred to me "oh my goodness, I just sent you that STD with her name on it, too! Just don't tell her, pretend it was just for you." Turned out, she had seen it prior to the breakup, but I just let him sort out with her that them breaking up meant he wasn't going to take her to the wedding and when it came time to send wedding invitations, I left her name off his envelope and did not send her a separate invitation.

I feel like in cases like this -- when literally the only reason someone is invited is because they are the SO of the person affiliated with the couple -- it is implied that if they break up the SO is off the list. Even if their name was initially on something.

That may be a UO but IDGAF

Don't invite groups of people. Invite individual people you like and feel close to.

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