Okay, here's the scoop. I totally am on board with the whole, "you must follow a save the date with an invitation" in almost all circumstances (exceptions might be that your venue catches fire and they can no longer accommodate the same number of people, or something extreme happens in the family like a death, or someone looses their job, or parents had a major falling out with family friend, etc.)
Anyway, my situation is that there is this friend of FH. I did not wish to send him a STD to begin with, as I felt our feelings about him might change in several months. Sure enough, they did. Problem is, FH gets way too excited and asks people for their addresses even though I asked to please not reach out to anyone except immediate family. I still refused to send out STD and figured I'd just send an invitation if we felt the same way for some people.
Anyway, for this one guy, I'm not actually 100% sure if we sent him a STD or not. I have written "No" in the column of Send STD? But then a highlight indicating that I sent him one. FH reached out to him to ask if he received a STD (and he also asked for his address which I have - he just doesn't get wedding etiquette). Anyway, this was over a week ago and this friend has not responded. I still THINK I sent him one, but not sure.
What do I do???? He hasn't responded so does he even want to come?? We haven't spoken to him in years (FH is so stubborn and wanted to invite everyone he's ever met). FH helped him move a few years ago.
