Invitation Addressing

I would use Mr and Mrs John Smith

Its hard to say nowadays. The correct phrase was once Mr. And Mrs. John Smith. But why is the man first? Are you sure she has even taken his name? Does she prefer Ms? Its such an outdated tradition, but if you do it wrong, it looks even worse... its a no win in my mind.

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith is the proper addressee format.

I get what Pezzy is saying - you have to know your guests. I would stick to the traditional format unless you know of specific "special" circumstances. Let's be honest, I wouldn't DIE if someone referred to me as Mrs. vs. Ms. - but maybe not everyone can overlook small details like that.

It may be traditional, but I find "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" to be extremely rude. I'm not taking FH's last name but - even if I was - I would be extremely offended if we received an invitation addressed to Mr and Mrs his name.

I am addressing my invitations Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Smith.

U can put John and Sally Smith. I say that mr and mrs really dont be used much. Plus it makes it longer. I real way is Mr John and Sally Smith. Either way it goes it would be nice to see both names. That way they both can feel special. I guess bec alot of tradition is out the door with this day and age.

If they are married Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.

There is nothing rude about that if the mrs uses his last name. It's formal.

I think times are changing/have changed significantly, and I know that a lot of women don't consider themselves Mrs. John Smith, after they've been married. Mrs. Smith, perhaps, but Mrs. John Smith, no.

I think simply John and Sally Smith or John Smith and Sally Jones (depending on whether she has taken his name). If you're not sure whether she has taken his name or not, I don't think you have to worry too much about the "John and Sally Smith" option. However, "Sally and John Smith" gets around that.

Yeah, I'm with Michelle, I'd go for either Mr. and Mrs. John and Sally Smith or "John and Sally Smith. After all, I took my husband's last name, not his first! But I wouldn't sweat it-- I'd imagine only your grandma would notice and get upset.

"Susan Smith and John"? with no last name for John? What? That is not ok and actually pretty insulting. Like his last name doesn't matter or you just couldn't be bothered with it.

It's about knowing your guests an their special circumstances. I have one where the wife is a doctor so her name and title go before his. Personally, I get offended whenever I get called Ms. Makes me feel like an old maid.

I'm just addressing them John Smith and Susan Smith. The first and last name of whoever is going to be invited.

it's never failed me in the past and I've yet to have anyone get offended if I didn't include Ms, Mrs or whatever. Long as I have the right spelling and all that, everyone is usually cool about it.

We just know we won't be being Mr and Mrs John Smith because I hate it. - I'm with Courtney on that.

It depends on the couple, what do they themselves use. Just because they are married doesn't mean they have taken the same name or stopped existing as an individual (which I think Mrs John smith says that you are just someone appendage)

Wow it's really easy to offend people! I put Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, unless there are different last names.

On the escort cards, I am listing each person separately but putting their names on the same escort card if they're part of a couple or family.

I just did first and last names and I always put the woman's name first.

Ex. Jane and John Smith or Jane Jones and John Smith.

I don't really care about what's traditional, my wedding isn't very traditional anyway.

I went with Mr. and Mrs. John & Sally Smith for married couples and John Smith & Sally Jones for unmarried couples. I also only have an outer envelope. I'm with some of the other brides- I went with what I liked and gave a nod to tradition by using Mr. and Mrs.