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Just Said Yes November 2019

Invitation addressing when multiple adults live at the same house

Anne, on April 20, 2019 at 8:24 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

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I'm encountering an issue with how to address invitations when there are multiple adults with different last names and living at the same address.

My FH's grandparents, great-grandmother (his grandmother's mother), and aunt (divorced but kept her married name) all live in the same house. Most of the things I've read suggest using different lines for different names, but I'm using Minted.com for my invitations and the template I picked (which I otherwise completely love: https://www.minted.com/product/all-in-one-wedding-invitations/MIN-06K-AIO/garden-lights?color=A&greeting=&shape=) doesn't let you put names on multiple lines.

I'm less concerned with formality as I am with making sure that everyone in the house knows that they're invited. All four names (I.e. Joe & Pam Smith, Sally Williams, and Jane Johnson) don't fit on one line. I worry that if I pick one last name, like "The Smith Family, " it won't make it very clear that all four of them are invited. Would "John & Pam Smith & Family" be clear enough? Is it weird to say "The Smith Household?" Another option is to send multiple invitations to the same house, but that seems really wasteful. Any suggestions?

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Latest activity by Hermione, on April 20, 2019 at 5:46 PM

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Kristen · on April 20, 2019 at 8:39 AM
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I agree that it seems wasteful, but the best IMO would be to send multiple invites. I have 3 situations where I will be doing that.
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Devoted October 2019
Melodie · on April 20, 2019 at 8:43 AM
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I know it seems wasteful to send multiple invites to the same address, but that is what you would do in this situation. You should send three invites: one to grandma and grandpa, one to great grandpa, and one to aunt. And, this way, you won't have to worry about how to address the invitations.
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CDickman · on April 20, 2019 at 8:54 AM
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I just sent a invite to everyone college age and older. Even if they lived in sane house.
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Sarah · on April 20, 2019 at 9:27 AM
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"The Smith, Williams, & Johnson Family" ???
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Chandra · on April 20, 2019 at 9:32 AM
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We sent 5 invites to FHs house.
1 for parents, 1 for his Aunt, and 3 siblings bc they all had plus ones and it was the easiest way to handle it. Seems like overkill but I think it also makes people feel a little more special to have their own.
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Native Dancer · on April 20, 2019 at 9:44 AM
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As others have posted, the best thing to do in this situation is to send multiple invites to the same house. I had to do that with one of the families we invited.
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SummerBrideInAutumn · on April 20, 2019 at 10:05 AM
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They are all adults and should be treated as such. Regardless of where they live, everyone over the age of 18 should get their own invite. The only exception to this is couples who obviously get 1 invite/couple.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on April 20, 2019 at 10:17 AM
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They should all receive their own invitation.
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Futuremrsk · on April 20, 2019 at 10:32 AM
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Send multiple invites. I have this same situation with some adult cousins who are in college and still live at home. They are getting separate invites.
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Anne · on April 20, 2019 at 10:34 AM
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Got it, thanks everyone!
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Courtney · on April 20, 2019 at 10:36 AM
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I’m going to be sending separate invites to the same address for family that’s in the same situation. It’s a combination of generation, names and family “units” so it felt the most clear to invite them individually as I would if they didn’t live in the same house.
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Courtney · on April 20, 2019 at 5:17 PM
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I would send multiples, it may help with any confusion in the household. Some of our friends are in a roommate situation (groomsman, his girlfriend, and another friend). We're addressing one invite to the groomsman and his girlfriend, and another to the third friend.
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Nafisah · on April 20, 2019 at 5:45 PM
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You could do an inner envelope as well. That's what we did and we bought labels from Etsy for like $10. You can also buy labels from Staples and print them at home if you want.
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Hermione · on April 20, 2019 at 5:46 PM
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Unless it's a married couple where addressing it is some simple like Mr and Mrs Smith, this is a situation where addressing 3 different invites might be worth the $6 dollars of sanity. Married with 2 young children are 1 invite and 4 chairs at my wedding.

Sanity is not wasteful. It is deeply cherished especially in wedding planning. Currently my sanity is a little absent due to wedding planning.

This may be the only case you have to waste $6 dollars but it's better than banging your head on a wall of who is invited. You don't have to deal with hurt feelings because they thought they were not invited. 3-4 invites will make it crystal clear.
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