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Invatitions plus one

Dixi, on December 3, 2021 at 11:11 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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So I am a little confused as to what to do here.
(A little back story. My daughter was a flower girl in a wedding in August for her best friends parents.)
Well I am getting married on 2-2-22, and her best friend is in our wedding also. Well her Mom sent back the invatitions, (now when I gave it to the best friends Mom, I told her that it included her Mom, the best friends grandma. We hang out all the time) well there was 6 people on the rsvp card now. The new married couple, the flower girl, her brother and the grandma, but now also the grown 20 year old half sister. We have only met her twice. And once was at the wedding. We don't know her at all.
I have already paid for the food. And have a limited amount of plates. I had not included her on thr count. As I hadn't invited her. (And now I have NO income. So don't have extra money to pay for more plates).
I am at a lost as to what to do. Suggestions?

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Latest activity by Michelle, on December 4, 2021 at 7:03 PM

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Sarah · on December 3, 2021 at 11:15 AM
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Is the half-sister the mom’s half sister or the mom’s daughter/stepdaughter? If she’s the mom’s sister, I think it’s fine to say “sorry we can’t accommodate (sister’s name)”. If it’s a daughter and you’re including the other two children in the house I think it’s a bit trickier and I’m not sure how you’d address that.
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Dixi · on December 3, 2021 at 11:24 AM
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She is the daughter of the new husband.
The other two children we hang out with all the time, and are 6 and 10. (The 6 user old is the other flower girl).

Where as the husband's daughter from his 1st marriage has her own life and is 20. We've never hung out with her other than both being at the wedding in August. I don't want to be rude. I just don't have the extra money right now. (My Mom spent 3 weeks in the hospital, so I've been working her Job and still having her get paid so she doesn't lose that income. So I haven't been working for money.)
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Jessi · on December 3, 2021 at 11:42 AM
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I'd say if the half sister doesn't live with the couple and their younger kids, then she doesn't need to be invited. If she is living at the same place, then it's a little different because you can't invite everyone in a household except one. If she's living on her own, just tell the person you've been contacting regarding their family that the invite was only for their household and the grandma and unfortunately you can't accommodate extra guests.
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Meghan · on December 3, 2021 at 1:12 PM
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I would be honest with her. Tell her that you have already paid for food and the older child was not included in that count since she was not invited. Being that you two are close, she should understand.
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Jacks · on December 4, 2021 at 12:50 AM
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"I'm sorry but we can't accommodate (20 year old) at the wedding". That's all that needs to be said. If they press further say "The invitation was meant for (the people invited)" only.
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