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Intimate wedding bachelorette party?

Carly, on August 2, 2023 at 8:15 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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My wedding will be quite small, the only friends I’m inviting are my 2 best friends from childhood who live across the country. Otherwise it’s just family (on my side.)
I have a lot of female acquaintances and I’m wondering if I can have an unofficial bachelorette night/girls night out when I won’t actually be inviting these ladies to the wedding? I wouldn’t expect gifts or anything like that…I’ve been very involved in social dancing in the past so I’m just thinking a night out dancing.
On the one hand it seems really rude to invite people to this but not the wedding. On the other hand, I’d love to still have a night out to celebrate with some of the girls. Thoughts???

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Latest activity by CM, on August 3, 2023 at 1:31 AM

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Carly · on August 2, 2023 at 8:34 PM
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Never mind!
I realized as soon as I posted I feel icky even asking this here, so I don’t think I’d feel right actually planning something.
I’ll just take myself out dancing and see whoever’s there and call it a night!(I would just delete this thread but I don’t know how to!)
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Cassidy · on August 2, 2023 at 8:46 PM
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If you feel weird about it, could you just invite them out for a girls night/night of dancing? Still go out and have fun.
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Jacks · on August 2, 2023 at 8:54 PM
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Your gut is right, it wouldn't be appropriate to host yourself a bachelorette with people that aren't going to the wedding.
It is ok to have a party without anything to do with the wedding though! If you want to see these people, do it!
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CM · on August 3, 2023 at 1:31 AM
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As you’ve realized only those invited to the wedding can properly be invited to any pre-wedding event. It’s not just about gifts or asking them to spend money. On another note, you wouldn’t plan your own bachelorette, either.

You have the right idea now. Ask your friends if they want to go out dancing. Just don’t make it about you or your wedding.
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