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Intimate ceremony then a big reception

Maddison, on January 3, 2020 at 12:17 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 4

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I need thoughts on this idea. My fiancé and I have found this cute little church for our ceremony. It was actually the church that my fiancé’s dad grew up going to and it’s from the 1850s circa. It’s so beautiful! But the problem is.. it only holds around 75 people max and our guestlist has 170 people!!! We were thinking of just having a small ceremony with immediate family only (parents/grandparents) in the little church, and then inviting everyone to the reception to follow where we can all celebrate and have fun! He doesn’t like the thought of getting up infront of a big crowd anyway and it would make the ceremony more intimate with just those whom were closest to there. But I don’t want to come off as rude by only inviting the other people to the reception or them be bummed from missing out. I don’t know. We’re very serious about this idea but just didn’t know how to go about pulling it off. I thought maybe in the invitations we send out, only put the reception time and place on there and state that the ceremony will be private for immediate family only but everyone is welcome to come celebrate at the reception. Help please!!

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Latest activity by Chrysta, on January 3, 2020 at 7:29 AM

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Nicole · on January 3, 2020 at 12:31 AM
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The way you're planning it is perfectly acceptable. You'll do two invitations; for your immediate family, you'll put the ceremony and reception information on it. For the non-family guests, you'll put something along the lines of "Maddison and Groom will be married in a private ceremony. The presence of your company is requested at their marriage reception" or something along those lines (there have been people on here who have written this out much more nicely than I just have).
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Andrea · on January 3, 2020 at 12:55 AM
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That’s what my sister is planning. She hasn’t sent out invitations yet, but she’s going to have immediate family only for the ceremony and then friends and family for the reception.
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Kristen · on January 3, 2020 at 7:02 AM
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Here's the reality of things not everyone's going to love your version of your wedding but it's your wedding and you and your fiance should do what you want to do. My FH is a shy introvert as well and just like yours does not like the idea of a lot of eyes on him. Plus, I think it's sweet how you want to honor your dad and your ceremony. You should look up on Etsy but there are many invitations as this is what we will be doing that states that you two will be married in an intimate, private ceremony but that those that don't attend the ceremony are invited to the reception afterwards. If anyone is bothered by that I think you just tell them honestly that due to the size of the venue and do to your fiance's shyness you want the ceremony to be intimate.
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Chrysta · on January 3, 2020 at 7:29 AM
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I think this sounds perfect! You will get the best of both worlds - a beautiful intimate ceremony, and a large celebration! I think sending out separate invitations sounds like the best way to go about it. I would just mention that, due to size restriction at the venue, only immediate family will be attending the ceremony.
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