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Gevonchai
Beginner October 2019

Interracial Wedding, Seating and Guest

Gevonchai, on July 20, 2019 at 4:05 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 18
So my fiancé and I are in an interracial relationship. I am doing the seating chart for the wedding and it's looking like all of the white people are sitting together and all of the black people are sitting together. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to sit people to "integrate " them?


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Latest activity by Shavell, on October 14, 2019 at 9:00 PM
  • CDickman
    VIP September 2019
    CDickman ·
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    That is hard. In sitting families together. Then tables I need to combine will be if they know each other or if they have common interest.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    Would people notice that and say something or mind? I know for ours we just sat people with who they knew. We didn’t really mix family or friend groups at tables unless there was 2 or 3 people we needed to stick somewhere to fill a table.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    We're having an interracial wedding as well! Could you possibly take two families (one from each side) and join them at one table?

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  • Jennifer
    Super September 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I'm all for mixing groups. For instance, we have tables of 10 and I want to mix everything up and put guests from each side at 1 table. Of course, this would include considering age groups and such to keep it relatable, but why go to a wedding to sit with people you already know? Isn't it about the couple; the blending of friends and family as one? Shake it up!
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  • Heather
    Expert October 2019
    Heather ·
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    Mix it up! Then your families can all get acquainted with one another. Sit his parents with your parents, your aunts and uncles with his aunts and uncles, etc. besides, after they’ve eaten their meal, no one will be at their tables anyway, they’ll all be on the dance floor!
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  • Gevonchai
    Beginner October 2019
    Gevonchai ·
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    If sit people with who they know our wedding will look segregated


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  • Gevonchai
    Beginner October 2019
    Gevonchai ·
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    I was thinking about this

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  • Gevonchai
    Beginner October 2019
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    Right. I'm doing 8 because I feel 10 can get a bit crowded. But I will keep age in mind. Thanks!

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  • Gevonchai
    Beginner October 2019
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    Great approach. Table of aunts and uncles etc. I will look into this!

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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    That's an interesting situation. My wedding will be interracial as well. I haven't started on our seating chart yet but now this is something I can keep in mind when I get there. I would probably do small families like 3-4 people from both sides to sit at a table. If it's larger families like 5 or 6 (depending on how many people you have at a table) then I would probably add like a dating or married couple from the other side of the family. Good luck with whatever you end up doing.

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  • Tara
    Dedicated August 2020
    Tara ·
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    I have thought about this as well since I am in the same boat, but as of now we’re going to seat people by family/who they know. Both sides of our immediate family have met many times and get along great, and I’m sure everyone else will get along well too. I just feel like it’s more comfortable/convenient to seat people by who they know. If it wasn’t an interracial wedding would it matter to you if the families were integrated? If not and that’s the only reason why then I’d say not to worry about it. No one is going to think like that, and eventually after dinner everyone will be moving around and mingling/dancing anyway. I’d say just don’t have all of your family on one “side”, but as long as it’s like one table your family, next table his family, etc I think you’ll be fine! Whichever way you choose to do it it’ll work out and be awesome. 😊
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  • J
    September 2020
    John ·
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    Could you do it in 'circles' auntie and uncles together, cousins etc, work friends together, university friends together

    Or try and place people by common interests?
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  • Kimberly
    Super August 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    Mix them all into the tables! I'm having an interracial wedding as well and plan on mixing our families into the seating charts together. Both your Aunts and uncles in one table, cousins all together, family friends together etc.

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    May 2021
    Catherine ·
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    We are having the same issue but one side being white and the other being spanish. We were going to totally mix it up but then realized people would rather be with the ones they know and the language they are most comfortable with. The head table and dance floor is in the middle so it will really be noticeable too.

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  • Shavell
    Beginner November 2019
    Shavell ·
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    Thanks for sharing! We’re getting married in 25 days and just started the seating chart and I’m having a hard time mixing in everyone. I don’t want people to feel uncomfortable from such stark different backgrounds. I really need help!
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  • MIWM
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    MIWM ·
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    My husband and I are interracial as well and I can honestly say nobody cares where people sat. Everyone talked, danced and had a good time

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  • Gevonchai
    Beginner October 2019
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    So just had the wedding Sunday. What I did was mixed everyone in. His parents and my parents, his siblings and my siblings , his friends and my friends. It helped everyone meet new people and all worked out great.
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  • Shavell
    Beginner November 2019
    Shavell ·
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    Awesome! Thanks for sharing! Seriously!
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