Inner envelope?

We are doing an inner and outer envelope. Ours is traditional ish. But my mom insisted on a very formal invite

Here is the invite. Oddly my super traditional mom is saying no. But to me I do.

What are you doing with that gap? I’d be moving your reception up. No one likes a gap, it’s really rude. I’d be coming to your ceremony and leaving right after.

View Quoted Comment This. The formality of your invites don’t matter when you are creating a 3 hour gap with nothing for your guests to do.

I wanted them, everyone told me I was crazy, they were not necessary. I had to get outer envelopes elsewhere because minted doesn't sell them.

The invites looked beautiful and I don't regret my decision at all. People who said they weren't necessary said they did end up perfect.

I'm guessing it's a Catholic gap on your wedding day? UO here but I understand it. The church will only let you have an afternoon wedding and the venue won't start til 6:00 because they book a daytime event. I was able to avoid it as I have a mixed marriage allowing the ceremony outside the church. But I know some people can't.

I think people will be confused by super formal wedding invites and venue but a semi formal reception? I am not sure what it means.

I like inner and outer envelopes but we didn't do them because 1. Our wedding was more casual (semi formal, I guess) 2. It isn't really needed anymore, it used to serve a purpose and now doesn't, and 3. It probably would have pushed us over the weight limit, as it was we were able to use normal priced stamps.

If this is your actual invite, make sure it's clear that the reception doesn't follow immediately, as that's implied if a time isn't listed for the reception. I grew up Catholic and I vote Catholic gaps are fine and your guests should understand and expect it. Because, Catholic.

I think they are a nice touch but 100% not needed anymore. We skipped them because it was just more added cost, but if you want them, I don't see why you can't have them. Really, the only argument for skipping it is that you just said it's a semiformal reception, and the inner envelope to me makes it seem like you're promising a much fancier affair.

View Quoted Comment I’ve been to plenty of Catholic weddings without a gap. The only wedding I’ve ever attended with a gap was presbyterian, and a bunch of people only showed for the ceremony.

We did inner and outer, but we had a formal wedding.

Gaps are rude. I hate when people excuse it because Catholic. I've known plenty of Catholics and been to their weddings. When the church was only available in the afternoon, they found a venue that allowed for an early start time to eliminate the gap. It's doable. People just tend to excuse it so they can put their vision above their guests.

Anyone notice they’re getting married at Trinity Church? A beautiful, super old historic church in lower Manhattan. People will understand the gap.

Also if you’re getting married in June 2019, why are you worrying about invitations now?

View Quoted Comment ^^^ Exactly. I grew up going to Catholic weddings, they would get the latest available ceremony time, then have an extended cocktail hour, and go into dinner. Gaps are rude, it doesn’t matter the reason.

Gaps are not fun! Are you ok if most skip the ceremony?

View Quoted Comment Not my question. Already have something planned for gap. Thanks.

That is a sample invite. Not mine. I have more smarts than to post my actual wedding invite. We do have a gap (problem with church weddings) but I have already planned something for it for everyone so concerned.

View Quoted Comment Information was included in the post and is “fair game”. Hopefully you are fully hosting the gap, or moving your reception.

View Quoted Comment Just an example, not the real thing! Agree, so tacky!

Question: what does not having an inner envelope convey? That it’s definitely not formal? My wedding isn’t black tie but it’s an evening wedding at a nice hotel. Would the location, time, and letterpress invites without inner envelope convey this?