Inner envelope vs. online rsvp

I didn't use an inner envelope, and I am using the online RSVP through The Knot as well. On the envelopes I put for example "Mr. & Mrs. Smith" or "Mr. & Mrs. Smith & Family" depending on who was invited!

We also did online RSVPs through The Knot, and skipped inner envelopes. The outer envelopes had Mr. & Mrs., or Ms. & Guest, or & family, and we haven't had any issues so far. I personally thing the way The Knot's RSVP is set up is plenty clear, and that people will contact us if there's any confusion.

I think the online RSVP is clear. This is why we chose to do online RSVP's through the Knot as well. I also like that this prevents guests from being able to add an additional person to the RSVP card like a traditional mail in RSVP would allow. So I think you will be fine without having an inner envelope, which I agree, are a waste.

We did online RSVP and had the names of the guests written on the card with the RSVP info so it was effectively an inner envelope. If you aren’t doing a separate RSVP insert i thinks it’s clear enough just online. I needed to bc I forgot to write the deadline on the details card lol and wanted to make it super obvious it’s online but you can call or text for help.

Very few people use inner envelopes anymore so you're fine not using them. However, you should still write who is invited on the outer envelope. If you are sending the invitation to a family and are inviting the kids (anyone under 18) then you can write "The Smith Family" or "Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith" on the top line and on the second line "Joe Smith and Jane Smith." If there are kids living at the same household 18 and over then they should receive their own invitation. If you follow this rule then you should have no problem addressing the outer envelopes with the invited names.

I'm using joy, but the RSVP limitation is similar. I will be addressing the envelopes to all who are invited specifically by name so there is zero confusion. We also have a FAQ page on our site which I'll suggest folks take a look at. It states basically no random plus ones - all guests invited by name. We have a few people who we are giving a plus one to that we are waiting to see if they'll have one by the time we do invites, but unless we know your plus one, you're not getting one. 😂 I refuse to look back at photos and ask who someone is/was at my own wedding.

So I chose to use both. I sent the inner envelopes to the older crowd, who I know rarely use the computer. For all others I the link was on the invitation.

I’m doing with save the dates with my wedding website information. So far I think I’m going to use this website. I like the knot too but I was able to add some stuff to my website here that I can’t on the knot. I believe this website does it by entering the name but I’ll have to double check. For certain people who I know may try to pull some stuff like bringing someone who wasn’t invited in the first place, I will be adding little note cards that say there are x amount of seats in your for and then list each persons name so they don’t decide to randomly bring someone we made clear we don’t want ( mostly family issues) but for most of the people, I talk with them so I’m going to address the envelopes normally and then add note cards for those I feel I need to be more clear with. I feel it’s a waste of money because your also expected to pay for the envelope for them to send it back with the response and that can add up to like 50-100 bucks. I also don’t trust the mail. Sometimes we don’t get mail we should have. It probably ends up in someone else box and they don’t tell us 🤦‍♀️ But doing it online is cheaper and easier. Now just to decide which website I want to use officially for my save the dates and invitations because there’s no changing my mind then!!

Is the knot a good site? I will be mailing out over 400 invites and need a good way to keep track. Good luck ladies

I’m making an RSVP card and including our cell numbers to text/call and email I made for us. I’m wording it something like this:
___seats have been reserved in your honor. Please rsvp by 9/4/2019 to...