Indefinite Postponement due to Covid?

Have you thought about legally getting married and waiting for the wedding?

Your profile says that your wedding is on January 1, 2022. I think you have some time to wait and see.

View Quoted Comment That's pretty much the direction I'm leaning in right now!

View Quoted Comment I know it's about a year away.. but given how things have gotten this unsafe (especially my area) when my state didn't take any action until the end of March, it makes me think well damn, if it's still this bad after 9 months, will things really be normal by my wedding date?

View Quoted Comment I’m not sure what state your from. But I just told a bride that was from the day state as me that we are going to have to take a couple weeks at a time. If you jump to conclusions change plans. Things may change in two months and you will be changing plans all over again.

I recommend focusing on legally marrying your significant other and doing a civil ceremony or an intimate backyard ceremony, then keep pausing on a big ceremony until things permanently calm dowm.

Well, my mom told me (I got engaged June 2020) that the world will NEVER be “normal” again and if I wanted to wait for that then I should just tell my fiancé we’re not getting married and let him go because I’ve already decided marrying him isn’t worth giving up my wedding.


That’s all it is. A wedding. A time for people to share with you and your fiancé the love that you have. One of the options my fiancé and I discussed was doing a courthouse wedding, for now, and on an anniversary, when things are less tumultuous, having a real wedding. I had some friends and family do that (for reasons other than COVID) and they are thrilled they did it that way.
Ultimately it’s up to you, obviously, but if that’s enough to deter you from actually getting married, then perhaps you should consider some alternatives.

I absolutely understand what you’re saying, and it’s totally valid. You could always get legally married sooner and do a full celebration later, if you want. Please feel free to DM me if you want to hear about my experience doing a minimony and then planning and postponing a bigger wedding. I definitely understand if you want to do the “one and done” thing! The only problem with that, at least doing it safely, is *when* you’ll be able to do it (like you said). Either way, my best wishes to you!!!

I would say to consider getting legally married in the form of an intimate setting and having a big celebration at a later time. Covid just has so many uncertainties. We haven’t got solid answers since it’s been terrorizing our country and even with talks of a vaccine I haven’t heard anything solid on that either. There’s no telling how long we’ll be faced with this.

My daughter’s getting married tomorrow in a very small, backyard wedding. They plan on having a bigger wedding in a couple of years. Having the wedding of their dreams!

We had to postpone (with no new date) our April wedding. It sucked...but honestly I really don’t think having an official “wedding” changes the love between you. Married or not the love should still be there. We are postponing until we feel it is safe. We are loving our lives as best we can during this time filled with love for each other. I wouldn’t add extra stress to this already stressful time. I would have a talk with your fiancé and decide what matters. If you believe that the price of paper/blessing matters most so a backyard ceremony and if you think it is only a big celebration filled with pomp and circumstance then wait. For me the love didn’t change when our original wedding date passed

View Quoted Comment That's not at all what I was saying. You didn't understand my post. We are getting married. Period. It's planning the actual ceremony that I'm not sure about because of Covid.

View Quoted Comment We've been talking about getting our marriage license on that date no matter what. Just hard to get anything bigger lined up when it might all go out the window.
Thank you!

View Quoted Comment I think that's the direction we are leaning in. Thanks!

View Quoted Comment He is actually all for just getting our license now and waiting for the ceremony. I think I'm just struggling because the date is just close enough yet far away that it's hard to feel confident in investing the time to plan when we don't know how the world will be by then. I know I'm spending the rest of my life with him no matter what, just having a hard time deciding if we should go full force planning or wait until there's a vaccine? Idk. The world is strange right now.

Oh my gosh! I honestly could not relate any more!!
We got engaged in June and I have just been avoiding the planning process at all costs because I don’t want to plan a wedding that is only half of what I envisioned! But I don’t want to wait any longer to get married. Stuck in a major rock and a hard place and don’t know how to move forward!

View Quoted Comment We got engaged in July! It really does feel like you and I are on the exact same page! Oh man, if Covid wasn't a factor the hesitation to plan wouldn't be a problem 🤦‍♀️
Do you guys have a date?

View Quoted Comment You're welcome. I wish you the best of luck.

View Quoted Comment Not an official date because it depends on vendor availability. Ideal date was one year from our engagement (June 2021) but time is flying and we honestly don’t have anything planned yet — so at this point we are aiming for September or October. What about you??