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Jaime
Just Said Yes October 2021

Indecisive brides help!!

Jaime, on January 23, 2020 at 6:51 PM Posted in Planning 0 18
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Ok so I just got engaged on Christmas 2019. And I’m feeling the pressure of starting to plan our wedding. I don’t have a date yet or an ideal venue or a dress I love yet or anything. I’m so horrible at making decisions so I don’t even know what I really want and my FH just wants me to have everything I want for our wedding. My budget is small for a CT wedding (5000&dollarSmiley winking so my options are limited to begin with. But I literally can’t even decide what season I want to get married in lol. I’m asking all indecisive brides to give me some pointers. P.S I’m a very go with the flow kind of girl which is like opposite of the way you need to be to plan a wedding

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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I would say to enjoy your engagement for a bit. You don’t have to start planning right away if you don’t know what you want. Start by creating a budget then think about what kind of venue you want.
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  • Audrey
    Devoted October 2020
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    If you don’t mind the season and want to save money, I’d go for winter as it’s the off season and many venues are cheaper (as well as other wedding things). I’d look at venues and go from there once you find one you like! Good luck!
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  • Kristen
    Rockstar November 2020
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    My friend is a go with the flow but do not be like that lol. Then at the last minute she is rushing to get a dress and stuff. Venues and photographers book fast. I would if anything start looking at venues and photographers. $5,000 is not a lot but it is doable. The biggest thing will be how you do your reception and not having a large guest list. Look up pinterest and type in weddings and it will give you an idea of what you like. I am not the bohemian style so I did not do really rustic type styles but if that is you then you know what you want. Start a pinterest board and check if there is a fbook group for weddings in your city because you can ask about affordable venues and what not.

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  • V
    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I think I would ask myself the following questions.


    Favorite season? If none, then is there a date that is significant to your relationship like first date, first time you exchanged I love yous, or anniversary? If that doesn't help, are other people you know getting married that you don't want your wedding too close to? I wanted an October wedding, but my sister was supposed to be getting married in October. My brother was getting married in April and my brother-in-law was getting married the last week of August so that kind of dictated when we choose. Another factor would be if anyone you absolutely would want there has a schedule where they are more available during a certain time period. Like for us, I really wanted my husband's two nieces and two nephews in our wedding. They are in school and their mom is a teacher so a fall, winter, and spring would have been more difficult for them to attend so a summer wedding would was the best option. They didn't attend my brother-in-law's wedding which was six weeks after us in the last week in August because they had gone back to school. I would have been heartbroken if they couldn't be in the wedding. Also, once you go to look at venues the date could be determined by what they have available. I will say that off seasons are generally cheaper so that could also be a deciding factor since you have a rather low budget.


    What is your favorite color or your fiance's? Our colors were red and black which are the colors of my husband's favorite hockey team. I also always pictured red flowers for the bouquets and centerpieces so it just made sense for those colors to be our wedding colors. If you don't have like a favorite color or sports team that you guys both like that you could use their colors then I would look on Pinterest. What season you decide on could also help dictate what colors you choose, but don't have to.


    As for your venue, is there a certain vibe you want? Are you religious that you would want the ceremony at a church and then the reception somewhere else? If not, do you like rustic, modern, elegant, beach, etc.? Ours was at a hotel because I wanted a ballroom.


    Have you tried any dresses on yet? If not, I would try on different styles to see what you like best. I have always loved ballgowns because they make me feel like a princess so I knew that was the style I wanted. However, I did try on different styles as my mom was buying my dress and she wanted to make sure I was sure I wanted a ballgown. She liked mermaid style, but I felt too self-conscious in a super tight body hugging dress.

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  • Jaime
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Jaime ·
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    Thanks so much!!! This really helps a lot! I do know I can’t get married in may because my brother is getting married that month. I also know I want something rustic and laid back like my personality lol. I guess all my planning will start around March because that’s when I have an appointment to go try dresses on and have planned to look at 1 venue. I guess just having this all in my mind and not on paper maybe is making me feel like I can’t make up my mind but the helpful questions you asked made me realize that I kind of do have a vision slightly at least
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    The season can really impact price, based on the region/venue.


    First, breathe!!! 💕 When you guys are ready, together decide on 1) budget, 2) estimated guest list, 3) venue. You might end up choosing a season based on your venue/pricing.
    If you’re a go-with-the-flow person, and you have a small guest list, consider an all-inclusive venue. They’ll have a lot of the decor or vendors and you get to just choose stuff.
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  • Jaime
    Just Said Yes October 2021
    Jaime ·
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    Thank you! I’ll be getting more ideas and starting a Pinterest board tonight!
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  • Jaime
    Just Said Yes October 2021
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    Thanks that’s helpful also!
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  • Kristen
    Rockstar November 2020
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    LOL warning it is a downward hole...you will want everything ha ha. But it helped me realize terms I never knew and ideas of dresses, venue ideas, color schemes, hair styles and new trends. My MOH will host a bridal brunch and I love the idea of a donut stand which some do for weddings in lieu of a cake. Isn't this cute?

    Indecisive brides help!! 1

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  • V
    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Glad I could be of help! Sometimes all it takes is asking those outside of your friends and family for advice since people on forums tend to be more objective than those close to you. I hope it all works out for you.

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    Master July 2019
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    That's super cute and makes me want to eat it lol. My brother-in-law did donuts instead of cake, but they weren't set up cute like this. He had a large donut for the cake cutting then just sat our individual donuts on plates for guests, but this is much cuter.

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  • Kristen
    Rockstar November 2020
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    LOL and of course I am cold turkey dieting today and me looking at this makes me want one too. I saved this and thought this has to be cheaper than a cake lol. I just want to make this for even a staff meeting ha ha.

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    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I am dieting too so I definitely understand that. I know the donuts for brother-in-law's wedding weren't cheaper, but they also got them from a specialty bakery.

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  • Kristen
    Rockstar November 2020
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    Oh well yeah lol. I am thinking DD or Sam's Club ha ha.

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  • V
    Master July 2019
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    That's what I thought they were going to do since they were on a rather tight budget so I was surprised they went to a specialty bakery. We had thought they were trying to save money by doing donuts, but when they told us it was the same cost I was surprised.

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  • Christel
    Savvy October 2020
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    I agree with audrey! If you dont' mind winter do it in early december christmas decor is cheap! You can do a winter wonderland or a woodland theme and get a lot for a great price!
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  • Kendra
    Devoted July 2020
    Kendra ·
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    If you don’t have an idea of why you want why not extend the engagement. Enjoy the time of just being engaged.


    My FH and I also felt the pressure to get married the following year, but we pushed it out about 2 1/2 years (getting married this July). I tell you the time has DEF flown by and has allowed us time to save and take out time with getting everything together.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    You’re welcome! Congrats & happy planning. 🎉
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