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Just Said Yes October 2021

Indecisive about having a a 15 person or 50 person destination wedding in Oct. 2021 due to pandemic

Rissmunoz, on September 11, 2020 at 4:20 PM Posted in Planning 0 3

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Hi! We got engaged 1 year ago and have already booked our wedding venue in Maui next year before the pandemic started! As we continue to brace ourselves through these times, my fiancé and I are now on the fence regarding whether we’d want to splurge or save on our wedding. But not only that, we are indecisive on whether having a small, intimate wedding with our parents and friends would be better than having a larger wedding with more close friends and family members attending. However, we fear our guests would be affected by financial hardships and other challenges that would deter them from wanting to commit to attending a wedding a year from now. I want to save but my fiancé prefers to splurge. Also, I can’t justify spending $25000-$30000 on a single day. I rather have a smaller wedding with the people who mean most to us (parents and best friends). But my fiancé comes from a huge Filipino family and would some of them to go too. Can anyone offer thoughts?

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Dedicated March 2021
Kimistar · on September 11, 2020 at 7:07 PM
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I have a huge family myself and I want them all there myself. Some of my cousins are like best friends, but related. I’ve known them my whole life, or their whole life if younger. And then I have actual friends. I want to celebrate with all. You’ll need to discuss with your fiancé who he really wants there and your budget.
And as long as you let your guests know way in advance, they can budget and save up for it.
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Kristen · on September 11, 2020 at 7:09 PM
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My thoughts are that you two need to compromise. Maybe just 30 and tell him that he cannot invite all his family. Also if destination maybe not everyone would go because of paying for travel. Remember you can have 50 people but economize how you do the reception which is the expensive part. You do not have to do all night open bar or with liquor. You can just do beer and wine and you can look for cheap catering such as italian, hispanic or some traditional fillipino dishes. Are you too dedicated to a destination wedding? You can but look up ways to cut back the costs.
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Expert September 2020
· on September 12, 2020 at 5:39 AM
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50 seems like a lot to invite to a destination wedding even without Covid. Everyone I know who’s had one has had a lot of people decline the invite. I think you’re right about saving, theres so many unknowns with Covid and itll be easier to keep track of everyone if you have a small list. Also probably best to not drop $30,000 in case God forbid something went wrong with the venue or travel restrictions start back up
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