MK
Expert September 2021

Incorporating mom

MK, on April 13, 2021 at 8:19 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 11
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Has anyone given their mother a special position or honored her somehow during the wedding? My parents are still married, and I'm extremely close to both my mom and dad. I do want my dad to walk me down the aisle, and I want to do a father/daughter dance at our reception. But part of me feels guilty for not having a special thing to do with my mom - who I am extremely close with.

Is there anything I can do with/for her that will honor her in some way, too?

Note: I don't want to take away from my father 'giving me away' or our dance - just something extra for only my mom.

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Latest activity by Penny, on April 18, 2021 at 8:59 PM
  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Can you do a mother daughter dance as well as a father daughter dance? I've seen that at a wedding before and thought it was sweet.
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  • Sara
    Dedicated September 2021
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    I've chosen to have both of my parents walk me down the aisle! I am also doing the father/daughter dace, but have told our DJ to play Abba's "Dancing Queen" as it's my mom's favorite song. I'll have the DJ make some sort of sweet announcement to the crowd to come out and help make the moment/dance all about her Smiley smile

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  • Haylie
    Dedicated October 2021
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    I’m having both of my parents walk me down the aisle because of this. My wedding is far from traditional, and My dad never thought of it as “taking away from him” when I suggested it to them. They see it as they are both my parents, they both raised me, and it doesn’t make it any less special for my dad just because my mom is right there with us. If you’re not completely opposed to the idea, I would suggest talking to your dad and seeing how he would feel about incorporating your mom.
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  • Ava
    VIP May 2022
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    I am going to make sure to pamper my mom. I am going to have a mother daughter spa day A couple days before the wedding, where we can get massages and mani/pedis. Then I will also have her getting ready with me and my girls the morning of the ceremony, where I will be paying for her professional hair and make up services. And I will also be gifting her jewelry as a thank you/I love you gift (I’m thinking a beautiful earring and necklace set). She can choose to wear it that day if she wants, or not. I just love the idea of something she could keep forever, and every time she wore it she would remember that special moment between us.
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  • MK
    Expert September 2021
    MK ·
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    I actually love this. Going on a rant - but my good friend's mother did everything to make sure she and her sister's were able to do their extracurricular activities, and even sold jewelry to make sure everything was paid for for them. On my friend's wedding day, she found the exact David Yurman necklace that her mother loved but sold back when she was a child. She gifted it to her mom on her wedding day and it was the sweetest, most emotional thing for both of them! Love this idea! And the spa day idea is also perfect!

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  • MK
    Expert September 2021
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    I've thought about this too! I think this is such a simple but impactful idea. I'm sure my dad would be all for it - I'll definitely consider! Thank you!

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    Are you getting married in church? If so, there is an optional add-on that I've seen brides do with their mother where they take flowers to the statue of Mary for a prayer. That could be nice.

    Otherwise, have her as part of the processional (my dad seated my mom and then came back and escorted me after the bridal party) and get her a nice corsage. Have her get ready with you for sure. Maybe have a special moment before the ceremony with just your mom where the photographer can get pictures. Something like that would be nice to add to your day!

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  • Ava
    VIP May 2022
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    That is SO sweet!!!!! 💕
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I had both my mom and dad walk me down the aisle. It was very special or all 3 of us.

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  • Fred
    Expert April 2022
    Fred ·
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    Hello M!! 😃

    I agree with previous posters: you can have both of your parents walk you down the aisle (this is more and more common because it's less patriarchal and more inclusive) and/or a mother-daughter dance.

    I would like to suggest this: You can ask her to give a speech.

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  • Penny
    Just Said Yes December 2021
    Penny ·
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    On my wedding day my husband and I gave each other’s mother a rose and a kiss before we exited the venue as husband and wife.
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