Ashleigh
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Inclusive terms?

Ashleigh, on February 28, 2020 at 7:31 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
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Hi all! I'm creating a custom day of checklist maker and I'll have a place for each spouse to put their name. The thing is, I was going to put "bride" and "groom" there but I want to be inclusive of same sex couples as well. "Spouse 1" and "spouse 2" feels a little sterile. What should I put?

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Latest activity by Jessica, on February 29, 2020 at 12:54 PM
  • Earazona_
    Dedicated October 2024
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    I would put spouse 1 & 2. I've seen some books that say Partner 1 & 2. You could do either or.
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  • Mandi
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    Bride/Groom and Bride/Groom?
    Although that could potentially still be an issue for anyone who is non gender conforming.
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  • Ashleigh
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    Oh I like Partner! I'm not sure why Spouse is rubbing me the wrong way. hm. Thanks for the help guys :-)

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  • Hope
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    I’m not following.. I have no idea what you’re talking about- I am so out of the loop LOL
    What about name/name?
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  • Ashleigh
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    Lol Hope it's all good. I'm just talking about a product I'm making, this thing that'll make a custom day-of wedding checklist for couples, and I want it to have a place for the couple to put their name. I just don't want to label one spot "bride" and one spot "groom" because that will leave out same sex couples. I just don't want them to feel uncomfortable or not included or anything, so I'm trying to figure out language that's more inclusive, that's all.

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  • Ashleigh
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    I hope that made it make more sense! :-D

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  • Hope
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    Aaaahhhhh okay, yes, now I get it lol
    Thank you for the explanation!
    What about Your Name/Partner’s NameBecause I’m assuming one person will be filing it out, even if two people are filling it out together there’s usually one who takes the reins...If that makes sense.
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  • Ashleigh
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    OH that's perfect! Thank you so much!!!

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  • Sophie
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    Such a good idea!

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  • Ashleigh
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    Haha the inclusivity or the custom checklist? LOL

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  • Ashleigh
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    OHHHHH you quoted a comment and it was neither!! **Scampers away** No one saw that! lol

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  • Sophie
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    Hahahaha. The inclusivity, the check list, and Hope's suggestion are ALL good ideas!! Smiley winking

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  • Jessica
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    I would still make it brides or grooms saying spouse one and spouse two is not inclusive or friendly might be considered offensive even - they are both brides or both grooms. Acknowledgement of their commitment to each other as you would straight couples will make them feel as if you appreciate their commitment just as much as they do
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