Including your kids in your ceremony...

I don’t have children, but this is the one situation where I feel like some kind of unity ceremony can be really sweet. Maybe a sand ceremony or something to symbolize the two families coming together as one.

View Quoted Comment We don’t plan to do that. We’ve been living together for 6 years. This isn’t new to the kids. My youngest was 3 when Adam moved in. He doesn’t even remember his dad living with us. I also think it’s a bit uncomfortable anyway. I understand why other people do it, but it’s not for us.

I have a daughter (28) and a granddaughter (2), and FH has two sons, ages 21 and 15. My daughter is my maid of honor, and my granddaughter is our flower girl. We originally wanted FHs sons to be groomsmen, but they are both super shy (painfully so), and also don't live nearby. So, wrangling everyone was going to be an issue, as well as them being in such a highlighted role was not good for either of them, in terms of anxiety. They are happy their dad found the love of his life, and they will attend as guests. But neither of them really wanted to be in the wedding party.

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It's great that you understand that it's the anxiety that keeps them out. It's a rough thing to deal with.

There are 3 kids between us. They will be two 12 year olds and a 13 year old. My son and his son will stand with him, and my daughter will stand with me

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Yeah, they are sweet boys. I want them to like me, not hate me because I forced them to be in the spotlight. I would never want to worsen someone's anxiety for my own purposes!! Having them come as guests just ensures that they won't feel self-conscious, and can just have a good time with their dad, and the rest of the family.

Our daughter will turn 10 a month after the wedding she is our flower girl.

I havent decided if we will do something with her during the ceremony or not yet