Including Stepdad

Maybe part way during the father daughter dance you can switch? So you can dance with your dad during the beginning of the song and then your step dad during the second half? I have seen that done before.

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My dad said under no circumstances would he allow my stepdad to join us...so I will be lurking on this post!

We asked my Stepdad to do all of the readings at our Ceremony.

My dad isnt walking me and I'm not doing a Father Daughter dance with him, I didnt want to highlight that my dad wasnt getting any of these honors by doing them with my stepdad, so my mom is walking me & we're doing a Mother Daughter dance. I wanted to include my Stepdad in something since he's so important to me and he understood the sensitivity around the subject and was so thrilled & honored when we asked him to read.

I have been dealing with this as well! My dad refuses to walk me down the aisle if i my step dad walks me too. I was thinking of having a separate dance for my step dad and I after the father daughter dance and i also considered having my step dad stand up and give me away with my dad. We will see how it goes, good luck! I know how much it weighs on my heart trying to make sure they are both involved.

I actually really like that. It doesn't take away from the father's role, but adds in a special part for him! How cool! Thanks Jade!

My cousin's wife is close to both her dad and stepdad. She had two separate father-daughter dances with both of them and no one minded sitting through one extra dance. She chose to have her mom walk her down the aisle, but from what I understand of her relationship with her parents and step parents, that was most likely a decision made to share a special moment with her mom, and not to prevent jealousy between her dad and stepdad. Perhaps your dad would still feel "more special" if he walked you down the aisle and had the first father-daughter dance, and could be understanding of you wanting to share a separate dance with your stepdad after that? I would not recommend having your dad and stepdad share the father-daughter dance. Give them each their own special moment and their own special song to share with you.

I wish they could be civil. My step dad is, my dad not so much. But I understand wanting to give his daughter away and not sharing that, however, I wish he could put it aside so it would be easier.

I love the two separate dances idea. My issue was that my real dad wasn't really apart of my life, but still felt he deserved to play the role at my wedding - not so much. My mom is walking me down the aisle, and I'm dancing with my stepdad. It's your wedding - do what YOU want to do. Your dad should be understanding enough to accept that.

Nvm sorry. Maybe a special dance with your step dad?

My dad is walking me and my step dad is going to do the father daughter dance

I'm hoping my dad doesn't have an issue with both of them walking me down the aisle. My step dad really brought stability to my life and he's chipping in for the wedding too. Hope both important men will be at my side down the aisle. *sigh*

I have a step mom that I'm close with and her and my mom get along so we agreed to give her a corsage to wear at the wedding. I would at least get him a bout to make him included

It's really sad when adults can't just do what's best for their kids, no matter the age

My dad will walk me down the aisle and do a father/daughter dance, and then we will dedicate a slow song to my moms long-term boyfriend (basically my stepdad) so that we have a dance but others can join us on the dance floor. Doing the same for FH and his mom and then with his stepmom. Lots of parents between the two of us! Good luck!!

My stepdad has been a huge part of my life for over 1/2 my life. Since it is my wedding day, I talked to my Dad and told him it was important to me that both he and my Stepdad walk me down the aisle. Dad will walk me the first half, then Stepdad will join us for the rest of the way. My Dad understood and was very supportive of my decision.

Here is what I don't understand. It is the Bride and Groom's wedding day. Not the Dad's. If you want your Stepdad to walk you down the aisle and your Dad isn't ok with that, then that's his choice. His loss. That's just how I feel about it. We are also doing a Bride and Groom's choice dance. That is when I will dance with my Stepdad and FH will dance with his Stepmom.