Including sil and Immediate Famiy in Wedding

I would just say that you already have your bridal party set and the people asked. Other than that there isn't much I can think of. You shouldn't have to have people you aren't close to in your wedding. It's your day and you should be supported by people close to you.

One of my favorite quotes is “we cannot simultaneously set a boundary and take care of another persons feelings” so I think you need to tell her they won’t be in the wedding party and leave it at that. She’s free to have whatever emotions she wants and you don’t have to change your plans based on those emotions.

Wow that is so many people to ask to be included. It's your wedding party, not hers. Make the people you want the priority. Talk to FH and come up with a plan together and see what works for you both. Then come up with a lot of nice ways of saying no for all types of requests for the future.

A reader & an usher are fine! Otherwise, your FH can include them on his side. Your BMs are to be your closest friends.

View Quoted Comment This is perfectly said. Just tell her your party is set and stick to your answer. I would also have a convo with your FH about this and make sure he is on the same page as you regarding this so he can also tell her that the party is set.

I think l would have immediately asked her where? Like to ask someone to add a gang of ppl to their wedding party seems way out there so I'm thinking she means in another way then actually standing up. Talk to him 1st though

View Quoted Comment My fiancé agreed with me and told me to say something (the hardest thing for me to do sometimes).

I told her what y’all said in a nice manner. This is a new thing I have to learn about which is navigating the relationship with my MIL. I’m glad to have a community like this in this special time.

This is your decision. DO NOT let anyone try to make that decision for you! I chose to have 1 MOH and 1 Bridesmaid. MOH is my close friend, Bridesmaid is one of my sisters. My FH has one sister- But, she doesn't think that bridesmaids should be in a Catholic wedding. I beg to differ. So, to make it easier- We are just going to ask her to read one of the readings. He also has 2 brothers and he chose to have two friends as well instead of his brothers. I would never feel obligated to put someone in my wedding who I am NOT close with.

I don’t think you should be expected to include them especially if you aren’t close. I agree with pp’s Make sure FH is on the same page and stand your ground on this one

If it is because they want them included maybe try to find other things they can do guest book monitor, etc can be a great way to include family without having them in the wedding party itself.