Including Mr and Mrs on invitation envelopes or no?

We're doing Mr./Mrs./Ms./Dr. on the envelopes. For other things, though (like the RSVP page and place cards) we're just using their first and last names.

We wrote out full names and titles for the invitation envelopes - Mr John Doe and Mrs Jane Doe, Dr Jane Doe and Mr John Doe etc.

We're just using first and last names for the envelopes! But that's mostly because my mom's friend told me that "Miss Manners" would say I have to use titles and that was a very quick way to make me want to do the opposite 😅😅😅

We used titles and full names ex Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Doe. We did not use only the husbands name ex Mr. and Mrs. John Doe.

I have read articles that note using names only is more modern with a nod to gender fluidity. However, I don't think your guests would be offended if you use formal titles, unless they have mentioned they are non-binary. In that case and for simplicity, I would not alter my entire Excel sheet except for this person. For myself, I used full titles keeping in mind my older- older relatives which included Engr., Captain, Doctor, and Dr. If I had an informal wedding, I probably would still use these designations because I never call my elders by their first names, usually Aunt x or Uncle y. Best wishes.

For formal/black tie, you would use Mr and Mrs. For semi formal as a majority of weddings are or casual, you can skip titles.



However, per etiquette, professional titles such as Dr, Esquire/Judge and others are not used because the wedding is a social event, not a business gathering.

View Quoted Comment Great idea thank you!

View Quoted Comment Okay good to know, thanks!!

View Quoted Comment Haha that is hilarious 😂 we might do this too, thank you!

View Quoted Comment Agreed, that way seems so antiquated. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Great point about gender fluidity, definitely an important angle to consider, thanks!!

View Quoted Comment Okay this is super helpful thank you, it definitely felt weird thinking of putting Dr. on the invite!

Always full name with envelopes.

I didn't, but we're getting married in a major East Coast city, and nearly all of the attendees are friends in their 30s. If you have a lot of older relatives who'd clutch their pearls at first and last names only, it may be easier just to include titles.