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Just Said Yes August 2026

Including Future Sister-in-laws

Claire, on March 15, 2025 at 5:45 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 5
So my fiancé has two sisters, one of which got married last year. There was big drama in their family because the sister getting married did not include the other sister in her bridesmaids, but included my fiance as a groomsman. Their mom cried about this, and I said I would include both sisters as future bridesmaids in my wedding to make her feel better. Now, Im engaged and I’ve realized both sisters are very difficult and I’m not close to either and would rather they not be very involved. My fiancé says it’s important to him for both sisters to be bridesmaids, but I only have one brother and have friends that I would rather include than his sisters. He’s not open to them being groomsmen because he has other people he would rather include. My compromise idea was to include the sisters as a separate familial bridal party where they walk down the aisle with my brother and then take their seats in the front row. Do you think this would be an effective compromise? I’m too stressed about including the sisters in my bridal party and other bridal events, but I also want to avoid drama as much as possible.

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Latest activity by Rosebud, on April 12, 2025 at 3:12 PM
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Personally if he/his family want them in the wedding so badly they can be groomswomen or they don't need to be in it at all. It's not up to your fiance who your bridesmaids are.
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  • Eb
    Dedicated March 2025
    Eb ·
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    I agree with Veronica. Your fiancé should not be dictating who your bridesmaids are. That’s your choice and the can be groomswomen and stand with him if it’s that important.
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  • J
    Super March 2022
    JA ·
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    You just have to figure out what your priorities are.
    Would you rather keep the peace, or is it that important to you to not have them in the wedding party?

    There are so many ways to have them as bridesmaids but still only include them in the “less important” parts (like helping organize the morning of catering, or putting the invites into envelopes, etc)
    At the end of the day if you truly don’t want them involved then you need to tell your fiancé and let him know he needs to decide whether they will be on his side or just not at all. Doing the “family wedding party” feels like an awkward non-role out of obligation and will likely be just as offensive as not being a bridesmaid at all
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  • Fred
    Just Said Yes May 2026
    Fred ·
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    Not only he doesn’t get to decide who is going to be on your side of the WP... but something is so wrong with him: he want his sisters to be bridesmaid but won’t consider asking your bro to be a groomsman. How selfish of him! Where's the compromise?
    I'm sorry to break it to you but he's rude on this one.
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    Rosebud ·
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    If you already said they could be I wouldn't walk it back now. If you had not already said something to his mom about it I d say tell him they can be on his side or do a reading but since you did I just wouldn't want the drama of changing it now. But have as many bridesmaids as you want the sides do not need to be equal. I d just tell your fiancé since it's important to him they can be bridesmaid but you are not cutting out any friends or family members to include them. Also if there s anyone you d like as a groomsman say it now. Wishing you all the best Congrats!

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