I got engaged in September 2018, started wedding planning in March of this year, and everything that could go wrong has gone wrong for My mid-November wedding this year. About two and a half months ago, my future in-laws-to be were returning from Italy from their annual trip. My dearest, loving FMIL fell and broke while exiting the airport. At this point, we are just resigned to the fact that my FH's parents won't be attending. My FMIL doesn't want anyone but her husband to take care of her, so my FH's father decided not to come either. My FMIL is still in a lot of pain and not very stable with her mobility but is improving day by day. In just a few days we have to submit our final counts and confirm the guests' meal choices. I am so bummed beyond the depths of the earth that they won't be at our wedding for many reasons, as my FH won't have very many family members attending. Only my mom and my middle sister are attending from my side of the family, as we have no other immediate family and both my step-father and father passed away from illnesses in the past few years. My youngest sister decided to skip out on our wedding due to some longstanding grudges she has against me and instead is going to an education conference to Hawaii during our wedding weekend. I am super sad about all this, but there is nothing I can do.
Family conflict issues aside, I've been thinking of ways to include them in our ceremony. So we are thinking of having them pre-record a speech for the toasts and plan to still include them on our wedding program cards as part of the wedding party. Thankfully, we are having our ceremony video recorded. What are some other ways we can feel their presence on our wedding day, even though they will not be physically there. Any suggestions are welcome! Our wedding is November 10, 2019.
