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include grandparents on program?

MrsBeetoBe, on September 4, 2017 at 3:06 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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I posted before about this similar topic...only my side of grandparents are attending our wedding and they will be escorted/seated down the aisle before the ceremony. in-laws want our program to have a memorial section to include FH's grandparents (even though FH and I don't like the idea). i see 2 courses of action: omitting the grandparents from the program altogether or compromising and doing the memorial section. is it a snub to omit my grandparents from the program if they're being escorted? i guess technically they're not "wedding party"?

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Latest activity by Sos0033, on September 4, 2017 at 4:14 PM

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MrsBeetoBe · on September 4, 2017 at 3:08 PM
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Second part of this is if we do the memorial section, FH's maternal grandmother is still living just not attending the wedding due to poor health. Do we only list her late husbands name? obviously it's a memorial section and i dont need people thinking she's passed when she isnt, but now SHE would be the only grandparent not listed which is kind of what FILs wanted to avoid and why they want the memorial section.
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Ginggotthering · on September 4, 2017 at 3:10 PM
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We chose not to do programs for this reason. It was so complicated and not worth the hassle or money for me and fh.
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MrsBeetoBe · on September 4, 2017 at 3:12 PM
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I know many people don't do programs but we are doing one
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Ginggotthering · on September 4, 2017 at 3:17 PM
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I would list tour grandparents who will be escorted down and then do a memorial section for late grandparents. You can always list his grandmother and then explain to guests she wasn't able to attend if anyone asks.
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MrsBeetoBe · on September 4, 2017 at 3:34 PM
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You mean listing her in the wedding party portion of the program?
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Ginggotthering · on September 4, 2017 at 3:37 PM
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Yes. She's alive just not able to attend. I would still list her anyways. Seems like your in laws are insistent on having grandparents listed in some capacity on the program.
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MrsBeetoBe · on September 4, 2017 at 3:38 PM
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They are. and it's not something i'm willing to go to battle over. i think it makes sense to list people who are walking down the aisle. the whole reason i like a program is because i like reading who people are in the wedding party.
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Sos0033 · on September 4, 2017 at 4:14 PM
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What about instead of a memorial section you said "wish you were here" and listed their names- that way you could include the living grandmother not in attendance?
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