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Include Brothers Into Ceremony

Shirlene, on June 27, 2007 at 10:32 AM Posted in Planning 0 8

How can i inclue my 3 brothers into the ceremony since they cant be groomsmen?


Latest activity by Concetta, on July 22, 2019 at 4:18 PM
  • Dawn Gunter
    Dawn Gunter ·
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    When you walk up the aisle and the pastor/officiate asks "who presents this woman to be wed" you can have your whole family stand up front with you and either have them all say "her family" at the same time, or just have one of them say it.

    For an added touch, you can have each member of your family holding a rose, and after you have been "presented" each one of them can hand you a rose that you hold with your bouquet and then you stand with your husband. The roses in your bouquet symbolize that while you make this step into marriage your family will always be there to support you.

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  • M
    Savvy July 2008
    Molly ·
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    You could also have them do a reading or participate in some of the ritual of the ceremony. If you're having a religious ceremony, they could be readers - I was at a wedding once where the bride's three children from her first marriage split the reading from Corinthians (the "love is patient, love is kind" staple). If you're doing a more secular ceremony, perhaps they could read a poem or a prose excerpt.

    I've also seen family members get up at the reception and say some kind words about their sibling (the bride or the groom) with the maid of honor and best man speeches. I'm sure you'll think of something very special!

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  • Laura
    Dedicated June 2006
    Laura ·
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    They could also be ushers to help seat guests and escort important wedding guests down the aisle. Do you have grandmothers that will be seated at the beginning of the ceremony? Or how about your fiance's mom?

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  • pamela
    Just Said Yes June 2007
    pamela ·
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    Yes they can... I had all of my nieces, nephews & God children in my wedding. My niece was junior bride & wore white like me with a small train, my step niece was my junior bridesmaid, my Godson was the Junior Groom & wore the same outfit as my husband so that they would match me & my niece, my other Godson was a junior groomsmen. It's your wedding, you can have anyone you want to participate in it. Don't think you have to limit them to ring bearers or ushers. If you need any more suggest or would like me to email our photo of the whole bridal party so you can see how it turned out you can reach me at ***********@***.***.

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  • Patti Wang Cross
    Savvy July 2006
    Patti Wang Cross ·
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    Congrats on your engagement! Definitely don't feel limited. On your special day, you and your fiance should be surrounded by the people you love; they should be a part of it. I had special friends and my brothers participate in various ways. I did have ushers and readers. Also, I am Chinese, and I wanted to incorporate a cultural element into my ceremony, so I started off with a modified tea ceremony (my husband and I served tea to our parents and in-laws). My 2 brothers got decked out in tuxes and served as "tea bearers"! They each carried a tray with special teapots and cups and helped out in the tea ceremony. Another thought might be whom you choose to give you away. I had both of my parents "give me away," but there's no reason your brothers can't be a part of that if you choose! Good luck!

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  • Maria E.
    Just Said Yes October 2005
    Maria E. ·
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    Ushers are a good way to be involved. My 2 brothers escorted my mother down the aisle. I know she really loved that. My older brother also helped emcee part of the wedding.

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  • Miranda
    Beginner October 2020
    Miranda ·
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    I have a lot of siblings and am trying to figure out how to get them all a role as well. Honestly my dad got remained in January and they did somethings to incorporate people that I thought were really cute:

    Depending on the ages of your brothers they my like being:

    - an usher

    -DJ: during the wedding ceremony they had someone designated to play the right song at the right time, cause they used an iPod for the music.

    - Depending on how close everyone is you could have them walk you down the aisle

    - Do a group dance incorporating them (this one is a lot of full if your brothers and you aren't afraid to get a little goofy haha)

    -They could each do a reading. Regardless of weather you are doing a religious ceremony or not having people who are important to you be selected to come up and do a reading is a really cute and sweet way to have them still be up there by you, and share something (that you've approved haha) with everyone you love.

    - Having them be a part of saying "we do", when asked who gives these two to be wed, have them standing beside you to say "we do" and have them join you and your spouses hands

    -Depending on how close your brothers are with your fiancé you could have them officiate

    -Ask them to give a speech at the reception

    - Ask them each to bring a small rock from where they are from with loving words and their name written on it and have your fiancé's sibling do the same. During the ceremony you can have each sidling come up and put each rock into a tall glass vase, & you & your fiancé pour sand in to the vase. It can be a cute symbolic thing, saying each sibling helped build you into the person you are today, they promise to be there for you like they have before but now they promise to work together, all of them (your brothers & your fiancé's siblings) to support you each individually and as a couple. And you and your fiancé can promise to accept each others siblings as their own. The rocks symbolize the support your siblings have given you and will continue to give you. The sand you and your fiancé pour in represents that you all are tied together now and are stronger with everyone together. The words written on the rocks are love, strength, and support, to help the two of you in your marriage.

    I understand wanting them to be groomsmen but them not being able to. There are plenty of ways to make them feel included. Know that however you choose to include them they will just be so happy and honored that you are including them on such a special day. Good luck Smiley heart

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  • Concetta
    Super March 2020
    Concetta ·
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    Hi there Smiley smile I have 3 brothers as well lol

    I would suggest, maybe doing a reading... maybe having a brother dance where they all cut in to eachother. They can also help guest be seated or before you walk down the aisle if you are having a runner they can pull it back for you Smiley smile

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