Help! What would you guys do? And does this make me prudish??
I'm definitely an introvert and feel uncomfortable in the spotlight as I can be a bit shy; however, on my wedding day I'd like to really try to enjoy it and think about the attention as positive (like everyone's on my side instead of perhaps judging me). Anyway, I have this relatively new friend whom I love very much and is a lot of fun - though I like her in . . . doses. For lack of a better word she is *definitely an attention seeker, LOVES to be in the center of it.
Anyway, she also LOVES to twerk, it's like her thing. Which I find amusement in and think it's fun/funny - in the right circumstances. With our somewhat old-fashioned families being there, I feel like my wedding isn't exactly the time or place for hands-on-the-ground, bum in the air, feet on the wall twerking . . . I've mentioned that this is a classy affair, if they wanna go clubbing, we can go another time and pay 10 bucks at the door. Anyway, I've also heard through the grapevine about a . . . surprise choreographed dance by her and another friend. ALSO this friend wanted to originally wear a sequined sparkly mermaid dress with a medium-length train (slightly shorter than my wedding dress) . . . to my wedding. At least she asked what vibes for outfits I was going for, and when she said she was thinking about wearing that, I said "if it's got a train then it's a bit much", so she's picking something else (which is great!)
Anyway, I've expressed that it's a classy, fun, family affair, but based on comments made thereafter, I'm not thinking she's getting it. How do I tactfully and kindly but clearly explain that twerking needs to be kept to a minimum? And also, how do I kindly express that it's mine and FH event (aka, don't steal my thunder)?