I thought it would be nice to include this as a small section towards the end of our program (didn't want to do a table with a candle and frame). I included both of my grandfathers, all four of his grandparents and both our our mother's brothers. I was only close to my maternal grandpa and uncle while he was only close to his paternal grandparents (my paternal grandpa, his maternal grandparents and his uncle all died before we were born/when we were babies). When I showed him, his immediate reaction was to include his mom's brother's almost (he died before they got divorced) ex-wife's second husband who recently passed. He said it was rude to include his uncle who passed 30 ish years ago and not include his "uncle" who passed three years ago. The only reason I included his mom's brother was because my mom's brother passed five years ago so that seemed fair. I get for all intensive purposes, that his "uncle" was the father to his cousins but I don't see the need to include him. His argument is that he doesn't want to offend his "aunt" but I've never met her in the five years we've been together and I can't say that he's close to those cousins either.
I would like to include the blurb because I want to honor my maternal grandpa and uncle (I also think my maternal grandma and mom would appreciate it) but because my FI wants to include his "uncle" I feel like I would need to include other people who are in my extended family who also passed . I thought where I cut it off seemed logical but am I wrong? Or is it just not worth the headache and should I delete it from the program to avoid it feeling like an obituary? Any advice would be appreciated!
