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Just Said Yes June 2021

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Amy, on February 9, 2020 at 7:00 AM Posted in Planning 0 6

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So me and my fiancé got engaged in Dec 2019. I always got on with his family but the day we announced our engagement his mum and sister have become really hostile towards me. Constantly making comments and putting barriers up when it comes to planning.
His mum got so annoyed when we were looking in our home town to get married. We decided to get married near her as it was a lot cheaper.
When it came to our engagement party we planned it In a restaurant near our house, his mum immediately kicked off ‘its too far’ but it worked out it was an hour for my family and his. Then two days before the party his whole family bailed and told us they weren’t coming. I feel totally heart broken for him as this isn’t the first time they’ve cancelled coming to see us, it’s our engagement party how could they just cancel on us! His sister is refusing to coming up and try bridesmaid dresses on. I’m getting so frustrated

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Latest activity by Onya, on February 9, 2020 at 9:09 AM

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Kristen · on February 9, 2020 at 7:07 AM
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I personally feel that is conversation. Your fiance should have with his family and how they are acting. Also if it's sisters being rude to you why she a bridesmaid? She is refusing to look at dresses. Then I would let her know that if she's not interested in being in the wedding party to please let you know so you don't continue to bother her. I understand you want to keep things peaceful, but at the end of the day if they are the ones being jerks don't go out of your way to accommodate them. If they choose not to participate in any of the wedding ceremonies, then that's a guilt that they have to live with. Maybe you both can sit down and talk with the whole family and just ask why have they all the sudden been disrespectful to you, too.
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Sarah · on February 9, 2020 at 7:11 AM
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Your wedding is over 15 months away so I wouldn’t worry about bridesmaid dresses anytime soon. Have your FH talk to his family and find out what is going on. If he needs to, he should set boundaries about what is and isn’t acceptable behavior toward you and what the consequences will be if they can’t respect you.
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Just Said Yes June 2021
Amy · on February 9, 2020 at 7:17 AM
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His sister and I got on so well before so it seemed like the right thing to do. I get very limited time off work, so I was giving her a few
Months notice for potential shopping trips and she is saying no or I have things booked. She also keeps saying She’s getting a hair and makeup trial I’ve told her she doesn’t need one and if you do. You’ll have to pay for it as funds are tight 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️
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Kristen · on February 9, 2020 at 7:21 AM
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I understand you used to get along but now you don't. I would take her aside one-on-one and just ask her why has she all of a sudden but acting differently with you ever since you got engaged. Let her know how it makes you feel and that you two were once really close and lately. She's been difficult with you. Tell her you would like to resolve the issue, but you need her support as one of your bridesmaids. And if she can't do that then I think you need to put your foot down and say well you'd love for her to bein the wedding party. But if this is going to be too much for her then she can step down.
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Jamie · on February 9, 2020 at 8:45 AM
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Me and my fiancé have been together 8 years before we got engaged and they never liked me now that we are engaged they are trying to be nice but it’s so fake even my fiancé said so but we have come to terms with how they are so we are just gonna be happy
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Onya · on February 9, 2020 at 9:09 AM
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Personally wouldn’t want anyone at my wedding who would be that way towards me. Your fiancé knows his family he should express his disappointment towards them not being there himself. Other than that there isn’t much that you can do. It’s about y’all. And if they aren’t supportive TOO THE LEFT TO THE LEFT! as Beyonce would say. 👋🏽👋🏽
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