In-laws

You've already gotten lots of advice about different ways to view this and reasonable compromises, so I won't weigh in about that. But I did want to say that I think it's wise to consider how it will impact your marriage if you run all disagreements with your future spouse (FS) by every single family member on both sides. Part of being married is working together to solve issues, so you are missing out on an opportunity for that by polling everyone and trying to win your argument by getting more people on "your side".

So, you might not only be treating FS unfairly, but you could also be affecting how your family sees FS and FS' family sees you, long into the future. You will likely get over any minor disagreements quickly, but family may feel very differently.

Have you thought of suggesting that they come in early and he spend some time with them before the wedding? One of my fiance's best friends is coming to our wedding and I've never met her so she and her boyfriend are coming in early so that after the wedding FH and I can have our time

I understand where you're coming from If possible, they can definitely hang out before the wedding week itinerary begins.

I think it varies by couple. There's no hard and fast rule. If it's important to him, I would go with it and let him have his time, as long as he also makes some time for you.

My husband had to go back to work 2 days after our wedding. I was off (furloughed) for two weeks. I rarely get to see my mom and aunt, so I visited with them for the day 2 days after our wedding. Then we took a long weekend for our honeymoon (since our original plan for Bali got COVID cancelled) after my family left.

Plan your honeymoon to start a few days later. It's not that horrible a request, IMO. Especially if it makes you future hubby happy.

If its compromise that you want then you need to meet your hubby half way, at this point he wants something you don't want and you don't seem like you want to budge, not saying there is something wrong with it.

I'm half and half because yes once we are married we are one unit but also we need to learn to balance our wants and needs. For our wedding we both had out of town family come in that we very close to us both individually. Together we decided to rent a huge home for both families to stay together the weekend of the wedding. My husband and I would stay one day after our wedding before we left to our honeymoon. It was so nice to have that time because during our wedding we had no time with our guests really. There was a lot of fun, we danced all night , had so much fun in the photo booth and were running around taking pictures and other fun stuff; at the end of the night we all went back to the big house and went to sleep, or passed out lol. The day after the wedding we woke up ordered breakfast and hung out together catching up and talking about the wedding. As a married couple we spent our first day with our new big family, that night we finished packing our stuff and headed out early next morning. When we came back from our honeymoon everyone was gone. We don't know when we will see some of these people ever again and didn't feel like we were sacrificing anything by being with them for one more day, after all, they took time off of work and paid to come to my wedding.

Has he ever dismissed something you felt strongly for? As a married couple the most important thing is to communicate and not with your parents or his, really thats the worst thing you can do is form sides. The less others know about what goes down in your relationship the happier you'll be. Best of luck to you.