In-laws

That’s so great to hear. I wish I had in laws 😢. Both of my husbands parents passed away when he was young and he has no siblings so he’s basically an orphan. Luckily I have a great family so he is part of that.

I'm so glad you and her get along so well! I love my in-laws. They are great. A little much at times but they mean well. I think because I'm younger and Jeremy's second wife they are more cautious than parents who may not have experienced divorce. Also, they're in their mid seventies and don't like to travel. Both of those things make me a little sad, but I understand. For example, my FMIL isn't coming to my shower because she told me she thinks there are better ways to spend her money. It hurt a little to hear that and it would've been nice to have some of Jeremy's family there, but they live in AL and my shower will be in PA. 90% of people involved with this wedding are in PA/NJ. Him and I live in NC. There are other things too, but I just try to appreciate what they are willing to do.

I do think it is important just because you also want to make it easy on your spouse. In the past my parents hated my brothers ex girlfriends and they would get into such fights about it together.

I’ve always found my relationships to be better when I had a good relationship with the parents. I am absolutely so lucky that my FH’s parents adore me more than I could ever imagine. I can definitely say my MIL is one of my best friends!

I'm in a way the same as you. My father a abandoned us when I was 13. My father in law has been so amazing. He has become another dad to me and I cant be anymore blessed. But I do think it's important, especially if you're planning on having kids. Makes everything easy. Plus I told my fh when we were dating (sadly I'm the only girl he has been with who has treated his parents nice) how I treat his mom is how I feel about him. I dont know if you I would feel that way if they were mean.

I love my FMIL (FHs stepmom)! She's always been so caring and helpful over the last couple of years. When my FFIL first started dating her, my fiancé and I both knew she was the one for him. You could almost see a new man in him. We get along with her so well and the kids from her first marriage (she was widowed).

My fiancé grew up with alcoholic parents so seeing a functional household wasn't the norm for him. Thankfully his father got clean and has been sober for 10+ years. Unfortunately his mother did not make the same decision.

On the flip side, my fiancé gets along great with my parents as well. He cracks jokes with my mom and helps my dad around the house.

It’s so important! I am beyond thankful for amazing in-laws! My FMIL and I are very close and talk multiple times a week! I’m beyond thankful to have such a great relationship with her, since my mom and I aren’t very close and don’t get along well. so I’m thankful to to have my FMIL in my life!!

View Quoted Comment It's great that your family could take him in!

View Quoted Comment I'm glad you get along with your in-laws. Thanks for sharing!

View Quoted Comment I think it's best for everyone to get along.

View Quoted Comment That is so sweet!

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry your dad abandoned you and I'm glad your in-laws fill that gap. ❤️

View Quoted Comment Your marriage will be so much smoother because everyone gets along.

View Quoted Comment I know right! It's like having a second mom that you can lean on.

It’s important to get along with your FILs, it makes life easier for your spouse. FILs were constantly badmouthing me to FH for a long, long time, saying I was after his money. But as soon as they found out I make 2x what their son does, boy has their attitude changed. Obviously, I don’t trust niceness that’s based solely on my income.
FH has met my Dad a few times and my mother twice. My Dad texts him now & then to be a smart *ss and pick on him a bit (all in fun). That relationship was very important to me, as I’m very close to my Dad. I’m not sure FH actually talked when my mother was here. He gets shy at times.

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I agree that getting along with your in-laws just makes life easier.

My future in laws are divorced, and have been for many years. I love them both...my dad passed away suddenly in 2017 and my future father law has stepped in to help fill some of that void. He is an amazing man and is amazing to me. I couldnt ask for a future father in law. My fmil lives about 4 hours away from us but she is amazing as well and is always very helpful. Overall i feel very blessed with who my in laws are, because i have been read some horror stories from ladies on her about in laws.
I am one of the lucky ones i suppose

Yes, I personally think it’s very important. They are important to your spouse, and are now your new family.

Unfortunately my ffil passed away in January. I'm close to.my fmil and liked my ffil. My fmil is the one planning my bridal shower. My mom lives almost 4 hours away. My mom loves me and FH but wedding planning and such are not her thing. I just found out recently my fmil called my mom and they got along nicely on the phone. My mom thinks my fmil is down to earth and looks forward to meeting her. I think it helps when both parties get along with each others family.

LOVE this!! I ditto you word for word. I lost my Mom when I was 30 and I miss her every day. My MIL is an ANGEL and I am blessed to have her. She was not included at ALL in my husband's first wedding so I am making sure I include her in EVERYTHING this time around and she loves it. I love the relationship I have with her - she and I talk more than she and her son do lol.

I absolutely think it's important to get along with your in laws - you aren't just marrying your man, IMO, you are marrying his family as well! Life will be extremely difficult if you don't get along with them.