In Laws

Unfortunately, yes. I’ve been with FH for over five years. Never had a relationship with any of his family. They barely have a relationship with each other

Yep! My FH's mom HATES me and I'm not sure why. I have spoke to FH about it but of course she is sunshine and rainbows when he is around. It makes planning a wedding tough because he wants me to involve his mom but I don't want to because of the negative experience I've had with her.

I got really lucky and we are close. When I was going to meet my Fiance's parents for the first time, he warned me not to talk about politics or religion...and I brought up both within the first half hour. I figured they will either love me or hate me. Thank goodness they love me.

Same boat! My FIL’s don’t care for me for racial and religious reasons. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s mostly been hard on my FH.

I used to get along great with his mom but the past couple years she has broken deals with us and I just dont care to continue being screwed over so I'm nice but not overly friendly and breaking our backs to hell her anymore.

They haven’t stopped hating me 😂😂😂 going on 5years. I stopped caring a long time ago lol I don’t want them in my life

My FH mother hates me, we’ve been together going on 8 years and it’s never gotten better. When we told her we were engaged she just told us okay and walked away. I’m lucky my FH has a great step mom and sister that I adore and have the best relationship with. His mother and mine isn’t going to get better and I feel bad about it it’s making theirs worse as she will not talk about anything with me even with him round.

I don't know if they hated me, but FIL certainly didn't really pay attention to our relationship until DH talked with his dad about proposing to me last year.

But I knew there were problems - even after years of dating, I wasn't always automatically invited to family stuff (at least by his dad), certain female friends of DH's were pointedly asked about, invited over, etc. (and I often knew them, and they knew me, and weren't interested in DH) - DH was blissfully unaware.

MIL didn't take too long - she made a point of getting to know me and figured out exactly why DH And I were together within 2 years.
SIL is still a mess. This is a touchy subject which I have currently dropped, as DH gets way too upset about it - in an unproductive way.

FIL and I are actively working on a better relationship, and it's really paying dividends.

My family hated my first husband but he was a jealous, emotionally abusive person. We were married 15 years and while my family tried to just grin and bear him they never did like him. They LOVE my fiancé though.

Yes :/ FH's older sister hates me. She hated me before she even met me. From what I understand, I met FH's cousins before I met her, and one of them didn't like me. So from there she told her own sister and FH's sister that they shouldn't like me either. And so the first time I met her, she didn't even talk to me. We spent three days together in their hometown, went to a sporting event with just my fiance, his mom, his sister, and me, and she only ever spoke to me once. Its still bad. FH is mad at her and her behavior, and she hasn't said anything about our engagement.

My MIL and sister in law have had it out for me since day 1. My FH loves them and wants them involved with everything. I want to have that too but I seriously have jumped thru so many hoops with them that I just cant anymore. I purposely scheduled a time to try on dresses that they said they would be there then 2 days before all of a sudden they would need my FH to pick them up and drive them there...well obviously he cannot be there so they ended up not showing up. My sister in law also booked her wedding for 2 weeks after me and I got blamed for "stealing her thunder" by booking my venue and date BEFORE her. Is it crazy to think that they might do something at the wedding?

Yeah, fBIL and fMIL used to dislike me and gossip about me. I have forgiven them but I refuse to treat them like a friend of family member. For example, I’m always polite and respectful, but when my fBIL goes in for a hug, I decline and shake his hand.
I don’t have time for people in their 40s and 60s to get upset about something I said that had NOTHING to do with them and then be immature and refuse to seek clarification from me but then go behind my back and gossip. Not to mention I’ve bought soooo many things and have done soooo many things for fBIL’s 5 year old daughter, who is my FH’s niece and he has not ONCE thanked me nor acknowledged it.

I’m a little more lenient on my fMIL, because I genuinely don’t think she’s a malicious person. Even though I don’t like hugging her, I give in and allow her to hug me.

At first, FMIL and I used to be very close, until FH and I had our first daughter. Drastic change in her behavior. Showing up to our home unannounced, overstepping boundaries. Making extremely distasteful comments towards me. I didn't talk to her for a year from **** because of the disgusting things she's said. When I see her, I try to keep my distance because I feel a negative aura around her. She pretends as though she didn't do anything wrong, or that what she did "wasn't that bad", but she's not a stupid person. She has many failed relationships and whenever things go bad for her, she expects FH to drive over and fix the mess, as if he doesn't have two kids, a job, a soon to be wife and a LIFE to live. Sure, he loves his mom, but it's almost like she expects him to bend over backwards for her. When he refuses, somehow it's my fault. What can you do? I've limited contact with toxic people, and it works in my favor, not so much for them. She'd complain as to why I stay away from her, and FH has to explain the OBVIOUS, as if she doesn't already know. I tried being nice. I really tried. I've been nice when my insides were screaming to be a jerk. It's perplexing when you've done right by people, but they treat you like the Devil's spawn. I don't need that type of energy near our household, most importantly our children. We leave it up to her to change her ways, not just temporarily change to suit her needs, which she often does. Sigh...