In-laws trying to ruin my life?

I honestly don’t know if I need advice or just need to vent, but here it goes.


I’ve always been very close with my wife’s family. We dated for 3 years before our engagement and then waited a year before getting married. I was extremely close with her parents and two sisters. Closer than I am with my own family. We’ve never had many problems and if we did, they always blew over very quickly. Everyone was involved in our proposal and they all gushed over how excited they were. One of her sisters was even going to be my MOH while the other one was hers. Everything rapidly changed about 4 months before our wedding date.
There was some drama around thanksgiving. It’s a long story, but essentially one of her more distant relatives thought I was being rude to her. I found out through the grapevine that half her relatives were upset at me for this event. I was treated badly about it without anyone telling me that they were upset. I found out her sister had known this whole time and it upset me that she let me go on without telling me about it. I confronted her about it and she didn’t take it well. We had some space and time went on. Things weren’t great, but they were civil.
Fast forward to about a month before our wedding. This part gets messy so bear with me. I ask her other sister to feel her out and see if she still planned on doing her MOH duties because I felt that asking her myself would create more drama. This sister Instead sends her a screenshot of my message which then creates a ton of drama. She calls my fiancée and tells her that it was an accident and she knows she messed up but she never calls me to apologize. She also tells her how much she loves me and how I’m her sister and she knows she betrayed my trust. Around this same time her other sister asks if she can bring her brand new boyfriend to our wedding. My fiancée explains that no one has a plus one because it is very small and intimate and also it’s about 3 weeks before the wedding. It’s too late to add him in. Also we don’t even know his name and have literally never heard about him. She loses it. Accuses us of hating on her relationship and wanting it to fail. Yada yada. It gets pretty nasty on her end. Because of this we ask her not to come to our bachelorette party because it’s only a few days away and we know it’ll be drama if she does. We’re told that she wasn’t ever planning on coming anyway. Fast forward again to the week of the wedding. She shows up at our house to fight us, with our niece as a witness mind you, and threatens not to come then says she’ll come but only to the ceremony and only because her parents want her to. She also claims it’s because she knows how much I dislike her and not because we said her boyfriend couldn’t come. My Fianceé’s other sister is now against us as well for apparently no reason. She also has a bunch of other family threatening not to come last minute because of things they heard. Things that were all blatant lies made up by her sisters to get them not to come. My fiancée had to make a bunch of calls just to get people to come and we still had certain people not show up due to these lies.
Now it’s the day of the wedding. One of her sisters let’s her know she won’t make it due to a reason that turned out to be a lie. She did end up coming last minute though. Her other sister also came and did end up staying the entire time but oh boy was it drama. Our camera man actually got her on tape saying that we won’t last. We were also warned the night before that certain people planned to ruin the wedding, but they decided either not to attend or go through with it apparently.
The wedding was 20 days ago and we just returned from our honeymoon. Drama is already brewing again. Both sisters have halted all communication with us. We were kicked off of one of their amazon and Hulu accounts. Removed from social media and the family Life360 group. We still continue to hear rumors about us that are not true. They’re dragging everyone we speak to into this and attempting to turn as many people against us as possible. It feels like a war at this point and like they’re drafting an army to stand against us. I am exhausted. I wish I did something at this point because then I could just apologize and be done with this. I can’t tell you how much time I’ve wasted crying over losing this family that I thought loved me so much. I feel especially terrible for my wife because she’s seemingly lost all of her loved ones due to me.
If you’ve made it this far, congrats. I left out so many details and awful things they’ve done just for sake of time. If it doesn’t make sense to you that’s because it doesn’t make sense to me. Thanks for listening though.