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Just Said Yes August 2021

In laws getting married same year?

Ro Ya, on July 12, 2020 at 7:16 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 17
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Need some honest responses as I think I may be overreacting little?



My in laws were due to get married this year but have now decided to postpone due to Covid because they want more than 30 guests.
I’m getting married next year August and they’ve now decided they are moving their wedding to 3 months before ours.
I am totally understanding of the fact that Covid 19 has ruined a lot of people plans but I can’t help but think are they rushing to get married before us?
* A little background info* My fiancé told his dad he was going to propose to me in a few months time, one month after that his in laws got engaged 🧐.
I could be overreacting but I just feel very awkward getting married the same year as my in laws and now my fiancé’s sister to add🤣
Thoughts guys ???

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Latest activity by Courtney, on July 17, 2020 at 4:58 PM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    You said they were originally scheduled to get married this year, so the plan has consistently been for them to get married before you, so I'm not sure it sounds like they are rushing to do it before you two. I can see it being a bit awkward with so many events, but 3 months is still plenty of gap time.
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I agree with pp, three months is plenty of gap time.
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  • Mrs. S
    Super November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    If it was 3 days or weeks I’d completely get it. But 3 months should be enough distance for people to get off work, travel, etc for both weddings.
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  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    Three months is plenty of cushion. And like a PP said, they were always getting married before you, so I don't understand what has changed? They have their own time table and you have yours...sounds like there will be a lot of celebrating happening next year! Smiley laugh

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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I think you are over thinking that they are doing it on purpose. Like you said COVID changed the plans. Maybe they did not want to wait too long and factored in 3 months to not conflict with your wedding. Plus, are their guests the same as yours? Probably not so your wedding will still be special. Don't let this bring you down as there will still be plenty of love and excitement for your wedding.

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    No. I don’t see an issue. They postponed, like many of us couples, and selected a new 2021 date. Also, there’s a three month difference between the two weddings. Plus, one event doesn’t affect the other. However, it seems like it would be a good bonding opportunity to occasionally discuss weddings with your in-laws.
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    Super October 2021
    Ashley ·
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    I wouldn't think too much into it. They were going to be married before you already, and three months isn't so close that people will have trouble attending both.

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    You’re definitely overreacting, it’s not like they’re getting married a week before you. 3 months is quite a while. You don’t own the whole year.
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    Expert September 2020
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    I mean I understand where you’re coming from. We had to postpone due to Covid, my sister in law just got engaged and is now getting married a month after us. We have almost the same exact guest list too. But I really think three months is enough time between the two, and I really dont think they wouldve done that on purpose. Maybe they are doing it to get out of your way plenty of time in advance for you to have yours?
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  • Fany
    Devoted October 2021
    Fany ·
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    I don't see amy issue. Stuff happens.
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    3 months is plenty of time. I think you are overthinking this

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    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    Is this your fiance's siblings or your fiance's parents?

    If it's his parents, it's possible they want to be married before you so they don't have to be introduced as "dad and dad's girlfriend" at your wedding.

    If it's siblings, you really need to let it go. Either way you need to let it go. Postponing a wedding isn't what anyone wants and you can't expect them to wait until 2022.

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    Super October 2020
    Trisha ·
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    Your Response Is Pretty Rude. "You Don't Own The Whole Year" Was Unnecessary.

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    I didn’t intend to be rude but I apologize if it came off that way.
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  • Susee
    Beginner October 2024
    Susee ·
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    My FSIL got engaged 3 weeks after we did. She has almost the exact same ring as I do. She is getting married 3 weeks before us. We both got engaged in 2018, we immediately set our date of 10-10-20 and then after their engagement they picked 9-19-20. It’s discouraging but not the end of the world. If your wedding is after theirs you will be able to modify things you noticed you didn’t like from said wedding.
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  • Alejandra
    Super March 2019
    Alejandra ·
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    My in laws were married in a small ceremony about 14 years I think and they had simple wedding bands because they both work warehouse/machinery jobs which they cant wear jewelry. Many times they would not wear anything. In the month before my wedding they decided to take out a huge loan (10k) from their 401k because they wanted to host their out of state family members who'd be staying a few days longer after the wedding. Hubby and I didn't agree (because they use to ask my hubby to borrow money often) but it was up to them, about 2 weeks before our wedding my MIL calls to tell me that she and FIL have bought themselves wedding rings, she actually was trying to find a ring similar to my engagement ring for herself but liked a different style (thank goodness) so they spent about 2-3 thousand dollars on these rings and they don't even wear them anymore. Also they blew the rest of the 10k buying every little things their family wanted when they came, literally not exaggerating. I love my in laws but they get into some crazy predicaments sometimes. I'm just more private now of my stuff. Weddings also bring out different things on different people so I just let it go with the wind!!!

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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    Our families had a lot of weddings on their docket this year and no one seemed to mind:

    Apr 2019: FIL and MIL (husband's step mom) had a courthouse wedding.

    Sept 2019: one of my cousins

    Dec 2019: us

    De 2019: another one of my cousin's (first one's older brother) got married exactly one week after us.

    July 2020: another one of my cousins (cousin #1's twin sister).

    Sept 2020: my brother.... maybe.

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