In laws don't think we deserve Honeymoon

If you don’t have funds for a honeymoon, you don’t take a honeymoon. You don’t ask other people to pay for you to go on vacation.

It doesn't sound like you can afford a honeymoon right now unfortunately, and it isn't their responsibility to cover it for you. I'm also against honeyfunds because it isn't proper to ask for money directly from your guests like that... Can you plan a honeymoon for your 1 year or a few months after the wedding so that you have more time to save up?

My parents are paying for the wedding mostly and FH and I are paying for the honeymoon..

I don't think you should expect them to pay for a wedding and a honeymoon

FH and I booked a cruise about a year in advance and we have been making payments towards it every month so it was affordable. I'm not sure if this is an option for you, though.

The less you ask the less others have to talk about

Pay fot the entire wedding and honeymoon yourself so you don't have to hear this woman's nonsense My wedding has been 2000 and it's a big wedding you can do something small for very little

I can relate! My FH's mom said she would be willing to contribute to our honeymoon IF we wanted to go to the Smoky Mountains, which is HER favorite place to travel to. I thought that was kind of a strange thing to say? Needless to say, we're not going there, and who knows if she'll actually pitch in.

My FH and I plan on using whatever money we get from the wedding towards the honeymoon. We're not going until a few months afterwards, because we don't have the funds, either. Like you, I'm dying for this honeymoon since neither my FH nor I have been on any sort of vacation in the past 10 years.

If you can't afford a honeymoon then unfortunately you don't get one. Don't ask them for money for it. If they choose to gift you money then that's on them but you absolutely do not ask them for money for it.

Also I would love love love to have a honeymoon. But we don't have the funds for it. So we aren't taking one. Simple. I am pretty sure everyone would love to have a honeymoon.

Honeyfunds are generally considered rude as you do not ask your guests for money. Create a small registry or do not register at all and guests will most likely gift cash. It sounds like right now you do not have the money for a honeymoon right now. Perhaps plan something for the 1 year anniversary? Also the more money you accept from them the more they should/will have a say in matters.

If you can't afford a honeymoon right away I will suggest saving money and taking a honeymoon in a year. I have a honeymoon jar I'm putting out at my wedding for my guests to toss in money. I'm also doing the dollar dance with my DJ and all that money will go towards a honeymoon as well. Every wedding I've been to they've had a honeymoon jar out and I don't feel it's wrong.

We aren’t going to take one, but my dad is pushing us to take done. Says we deserve it (I’ve had major health issues this year).

If you can’t afford one, don’t take it. I wouldn’t ask FILs for money to take it. If we do take one, at most it’ll be maybe two days locally in a hotel or an hour south. We’d rather save money and do a big trip next year when we’re better able to afford it.

FH’s mom offered us her timeshare in Mexico, but I’m not able to travel there, so that’s out.

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I've never been to a wedding with a honeymoon jar, but it might depend on the area you're in.

My parents are paying for most of the wedding so we are able to allocate all of our money on the honeymoon. If they are able to allocate funds to the wedding you could save for the honeymoon. If financially you couldn't swing either than you are truly at their mercy and should plan for a later one.

I don't personally see an issue with a honeymoon fund, if people don't want to contribute to it, they won't. I am using my zola registry to ask for contributions for activities we want to do on our honeymoon, and I have known at least a half dozen other couples who have done this, and most of the time their guests did contribute. I would be happy as a wedding guest to know my gift went to the couple having an amazing trip together rather then buying them stupid bath towels or a toaster! You'll likely get cash as wedding gifts that could pay for a honeymoon a few months out after the wedding. I would still do some research to find out the approximate cost for the honeymoon you are you FH want, and then after the wedding you can see if it's possible. I wouldn't expect your in-laws to want to contribute, but it doesn't mean you don't deserve a trip, we all need a week away at some point!

You should definitely do a honeyfund website. She doesn’t know for sure that no one will give $ toward that. And if no one does, no harm done in making it anyway. If I were you I wouldn’t take anymore money from them unless you really have to. Sounds like they want to help but maybe are doing it in the most supportive way.

If you don't have the money to pay for a honeymoon then you can't go on one. Its unfortunate, but that's how the real world works. We are going to take a mini-moon and then a honeymoon next year.

Advice:

- If you don't want her to have say in your wedding, then pay for it all by yourselves.

- Save for your honeymoon and then take it.

- Don't do a honeyfund. It's rude. Just skip the registry and people will most likely gift you cash.

What happen to thinking outside the box? If you don't have the funds to go away now then you start to save up for a honeymoon after you get married. In that time you research where you two want to go, when to go and how much it will be. In the meantime, I think you two can come up with things you can do in your home or home area without a lot of money. First make sign- do not disturb the newlyweds and place a big one on your front Then a regular size one on you bedroom door. Then have in fridge ready something sweet to eat with each other that night. See if you can afford locally, something that tourist would do and you haven't. The next day lounge around with a nice lunch. The next day it's back to normal. I've heard of couple's tandem jumping, snorkeling, museum hopping or hang out by a pool with drinks they made.

Honeymoon and wedding can be separate. My family is paying for the majority of the wedding (they’re paying 2/3, and FH and I are paying 1/3) but FH and I are paying for our whole honeymoon. Hoping to get some honeymoon $ from guests. I’m sure certain guests would contribute to a honeymoon fund even if your FILs don’t think so. If guests don’t like it they don’t have to contribute. But I’m sure you will get some guests that would like to contribute to you having that experience!

Dont accept money that comes with strings. If they want to gift you money to use for your wedding, that is very kind of them, but it should be seen as a gift. Otherwise the whole wedding will turn into their party. FH should speak to them about expectations for this. If they’re not willing to contribute with no strings, they shouldn’t contribute. They may as well throw a party for themselves