In law problems

I had that feeling but I think it's because I just didn't really know them. Now I've a good relationship with them

My future in laws hated me!
His brother would straight up beg him to leave me and talk pure crap about me, just because I refuse to party and smoke and drink and allow them to be utterly stupid together, my fiancé isn’t into all that anyways but he don’t say no he just stands there like. Uhhh idk I’m busy.

His mom acted like I wasn’t good enough, she even insulted my family before meeting them, she hasn’t met them yet and hasn’t tried. None of them have

His grandma and her husband were nice to me, especially her husband who was overly nice to me actually, but then she said she was gonna break us up. They hired an investigator to check out my family like wow.

But now, the month of our wedding his mom told me she loves me and sees he’s happy now and that she always wanted a daughter, his brother could care less and idk about his grandparents.

Alls well that ends well I guess.

Yes, I suspect mines do not. As long as they don’t disrespect me and remain cordial and continue to be good parents to my FH, I just sit there and smile. Lol. I no longer go over their house anymore. They have three sons including my FH, and I’m the only women to ever be involved with one of their sons who doesn’t have a drinking problem, drug issue, financial issues nor criminal-legal issues. Unfortunately, (I suspect) I still get talked negatively about. Oh well, their loss.

I told DH years ago, "your dad doesn't like me." He didn't really believe me... until he went to his dad and said, "I'm proposing to her soon."

Turns out, I was pretty much right. But it wasn't me, it was him. MIL stood up for me right away, and pointed out that FIL *never* talked to me.

He's made a point to get to know me, and now we get along pretty well.

SIL is a totally different story.

The best advice I can give is to just stand by your FS, and ask them to back you up. Treat your FILs with respect and choose kindness. This does NOT mean you have to tell them all your secrets, go out of your way to accommodate them, or fawn over them. Just be you, and let FS handle it.

I'm pretty sure my FIL likes me. He's always nice, engages in conversation, and he's pretty wise-meaning he doesn't talk unless he's thought about what he wants to say and he can contribute to a conversation, unlike other people who just run their mouths.

Now my MIL...she's another story. She likes to be (mostly) nice to everyone's face but will talk some serious sh!!t on people behind their back. They're actually staying with us atm and my roommate heard her and my future BIL and SIL talking bad about me one day. So of course my roommate told me and I got really upset. Like I'm letting you stay with us and you're going to talk about me? She did apologize and she's pretty nice to me but I don't trust her and I don't know if she actually likes me or not.