In-law Issues

Include them in whatever you would include your own parents in when it comes to all 3 of your questions. Live your best life despite their ignorance. Kill them with kindness. If that is the only reason they disapprove of you, they are shallow miserable people and that alone is their punishment in life. How sad.

I agree with Jennifer, do the same as your parents will do since they will technically be your parents too.

You acting in class says more about you than them. I know you are going to look beautiful and if she has the audacity to say something negative then that says SO much about her character than yours.

I am Sorry they are being rude. If they pay for rehearsal dinner you have to invite them. But a lot of times that is more of a old fashion thing. It is up to you and your fiancée if you want them in your wedding party. And where they sit.

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I agree with this. I'm sorry your in-laws have been so mean to you!

Theyll have to get to their seats somehow. Just makes sense to do it.
Were having a head table. Both our families will be near us. As long as you put them somewhat close, you should.
If you're inviting your parents to rehersal dinner, you should invite his. My in laws aren't paying for our rehersal, but of course they are still invited. They are the grooms parents.

Traditionally, none of the people except bride's father or other escort, and BM, GM, and the couple are any part of the processional. The parents , first groom's, then bride's are seated usually by either ushers or by family members. That is the last thing before the processional starts. Recently people have included their parents, their children, their pets and picketers ( people carrying signs ). But these are not at all traditional, and most people still have family seated last, before the WP gets together for the procession. So just say you want it the traditional way. They will be seated. Not standing with you moments before you go down the aisle. As for the reception, give them a couple of tables of their friends and family to sit in the same section. You may sit with some or all of your bridal party and their SO. Or sit at a sweetheart table.

Rehearsal dinner is often paid for by the groom's parents, and often by the couple. If you let groom's parents host it, you. Otherwise only must let them attend, but they get to add people to the wedding party. As hosts, they not you decide where it is, how formal, whether or not they want to add their other family or out of town guests, and also the menu and drinks served. If you do not want them in complete control, you may decline their offers to plan and pay for the RD. You can have a RD with only the people needed at the rehearsal itself, and their SO. This does not necessarily include parents or siblings of the B and G. Often they are invited, but not bad manners to just have those in the actual bridal party, with their SO. Do you want to not have them there enough to plan and pay for the RD yourself es?

Do what you want to do. If they give you any trouble or make rude comments tell them you'll eat them.
My in laws LOVE making rude comments on people's weight, especially father in law. But he sure doesn't like it when I ask him about his bald spot. 😂

They are your FH parents. He should probably address this with them and have him decide what he wants to do with you. Also I would sit them right next to you and eat everything you want while staring at them! But that's just me. You should not have to feel judged! Your FH should be behind you on this and address the situation.

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I completely agree with this!! How does your FH feel about this? If his parents don't approve of you, then why are they invited to the wedding? Also, I would take into consideration how it'll affect him if his parents weren't included. This is definitely something y'all should be deciding together. Regardless, the best thing you can do is show them that you are here to stay, and be the bigger person. You can't control other people, but you can control how you react to them. As far as the rehearsal dinner goes, that is only if they offer to pay for it. Otherwise, the B&G pay for it.

You are beautiful. Don't ever let anyone bring you down.

You don't have to include any of your in-laws in your bridal party. In fact, you don't even have to include them in any part of the ceremony at all. They can simply attend, if they want to of course.

In my opinion you should invite them to the rehearsal dinner because it's always better to take the high road because you don't want them not being invited as another thing on the list of reasons as to why they don't like you.

As for seating, if you're that upset that they can't even sit at a table near you then I really think it's time for you to have a discussion with your FH and ask him to lay down the law as to how he expects them to treat someone he loves.

Wow that's ridiculous.....

But yes, they should process down the aisle and they should be invited the rehearsal dinner. Even if they are crummy judgmental people, they had a hand in raising the man you love.