Davida
Just Said Yes January 2022

In-law Gifts

Davida, on February 11, 2021 at 11:57 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9
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Is it standard practice for the bride and groom to give gifts to their future in-laws? If so, what are some example gifts that could be provided to each future mother-in-law?

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Latest activity by Melle, on February 12, 2021 at 12:20 AM
  • M
    Super June 2021
    Melanie ·
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    I'm not sure if it's standard practice or not, but we're paying for my FMIL to get her make up done and may get her some earrings or a bracelet since she loves jewelry
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Typically you get gifts for your own parents. Kind of a “thanks for raising me, I’m making my own family now” kind of thing.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    In many families/social circles, parent/inlaw gifts are not a thing. While others consider them to be mandatory. Ask a few relatives what is customary in your families and go from there. They are nice but not required.

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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
    SHY ·
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    It's optional whether you want to give them gifts or not! You can also give them whatever feels right to you.

    Some common gifts are: embroidered handkerchiefs, framed photo with a note, jewelry, watches, wallet, tie bar, cufflinks, etc.

    I'm giving everyone a framed photo of us. Not sure what FH is wanting to give them yet

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  • Allie
    VIP November 2021
    Allie ·
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    I've seen it done both ways. We personally are probably just going to get our parents gifts from the both of us and eliminate that question completely. I've mostly seen jewelry for women given. For men I've seen handerchiefs, flasks, a beer mug, a wallet, I've even seen some engraved pocket knives. We haven't fully discussed it but I think we are going to plan on getting our mothers each a piece of jewelry they can wear to our wedding, not sure about our fathers yet but maybe some cuff links.

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    Judith ·
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    Like all gift giving things, they have been heavily promoted by the industries making money from it in recent years. But long term , aside from photos given framed or in albums after the wedding, gifts to parents have never been the usual thing. Not your own, not your future in-laws. If they help with the wedding financially, a nice letter of thanks is called for. But traditionally you do not thank people for giving you money by giving them a gift. Usually, B and G give
    presents to their parents on Mother's Day, Father's Day, their birthdays, their anniversary, and often at major holidays. At your wedding, your parents and other older family give gifts to you. ... A couple years ago, ads and influencers postings, and advice articles in sites like Wedding Wire started pushing lists and suggestions of gifts to give your siblings, another non-wedding thing. This year for the first time ever, I have seen on WW and elsewhere, articles suggesting what to buy for your sisters-in-law, and your brothers-in-law.
    ****** Add those to the recent fad of proposal gifts for bridesmaids, a recent invention, and buying robes or shirts for getting ready parties, a huge load has been laid out of never before given gifts, within 15 years. Don't feel any need to buy any of them. They are not necessary. Necessary is one nice personal gift to each attendant. And thank you notes for those who give you a gift, or do you a service. That is it.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Agree with this

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  • Jessica
    Devoted February 2021
    Jessica ·
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    I’m giving them a scentsy warmer that says love on it and waxes in the same scent as the candles we’re using at our wedding.
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    We gifted our parents at rehearsal dinner along with everyone else! We got the dads limited edition versions of their favorite alcohols and the moms we got them necklaces
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