In her wedding, should she be in mine?

Just because you're in her wedding doesn't mean you have to ask her to be in yours. Everyone's situation is different.

What do you mean you have "one spot left"? You're not building a volleyball team. You ask the people who you really want to stand with you, and you don't do it until six-seven months ahead.

Just because you were in someone's wedding doesn't mean they have to be in yours. I was a BM in my sorority sister's wedding but didn't ask her to be a BM in mine. She had 9 BM's and I'm only having 4 so she was very understanding (and honestly relieved LOL) when I told her I wouldn't be asking her to be a BM.

Obligation is never a good reason to ask someone to be a part of your BP.

No need to feel obliged to ask someone to stand by your side. Ask who you want.

Lol @Celia .... I 100% agree!! I only have 5 BM's and my FI has 8 GM! It doesn't matter if your numbers don't match up! We aren't even having a girls side or boys side.... Just one big happy bridal party family! Xo

I was in my cousins and she will not be in mine so I don't think you have to

You choose your bridal party with people you love...you do not pick a number as spots to fill. Is she one of your great friends? Did you think of her when you got engaged to be a part of your wedding? These are the closest ladies in your life that you want by your side on your wedding day. The fact that you're questioning it tells me she's not one of those closest ladies. Just because you are in hers doesn't mean she needs to be in yours. Please pick the party you want...and not just fill "spots" out of a sense of obligation.

LOL Celia. It's field day wedding style!

OP I was in my brother's wedding and he won't be in mine. If you don't want to include her then don't.

Iv'e been in other people's weddings, and didn't ask them to be in mine. It really shouldn't hurt your friendship, because people should not ASSUME that they will automatically be in your wedding. You also have time to make this decision. Maybe think about it before you pick your "last spot," because you may regret your decision later if you act too quickly.

Head's up - this same situation happened to me. I was in my "friend's" wedding November 2014, I barely see her, or talk to her now so I decided not to put her in mine. We were close growing up, but have grown apart. She has since blocked me on social media and has not contacted me. I reached out to her in February but haven't heard from her since. Be prepared, unless she's actually not an extremely sensitive drama queen.

ETA: she assumed she was in mine.

Weddings aren't tit for tat. I was not in my MOH's wedding, or my bridesmaids' wedding. You pick who you want there, and people shouldn't assume they're in your wedding party because you were in theirs.

I was in a friend from high schools but I don't think I'm even inviting her to mine. We have only talked via fb and a few random texts over the past few years.

So no you don't have to have her in your wedding

Edit: hit send before finishing my thought

I only came in here to point out that O&S said tit.

TITTIES!

that is all.

Lol @JoRocka I think you are the only one that had the guts to say it

I would hope people adult and mature enough to get married would be adult and mature enough that social circles and wedding parties are not all equal.

I have been a BM for people who weren't BM for me, and I had BMs who did not have me as a BM in their weddings (1 before and 1 after my wedding). There are no hard feelings!