In a wedding this weekend and just found out I’m pregnant!

If you are in her wedding, obviously she considers you one of her best friends, so I would assume she would be super happy for your news! I would share it with her privately beforehand. But I wouldn’t bring it up to anyone else at the wedding, so as not to “steal her thunder“. If anyone at the wedding asks, I would just say you are having “tummy troubles”.

This actually happened with another BM in a wedding I was in a few years ago. That person just blamed her refusal to drink on a migraine or something. I don't think anyone should ever need to explain/excuse/rationalize why they aren't drinking. Congratulations!

Congratulations!! This also happened with a girl I was in a wedding party with. She sneakily made sure her “mimosa” was OJ only and then asked the bartender for drinks that looked like vodka sodas but were actually just seltzer with lime. Don’t stress about it too much!

Just pretend to drink. Do not tell the bride if you normally wouldn't at this stage, to much chance that somehow it will get out or she might react badly.

If you want to tell her then go for it, otherwise don't. Telling her won't steal her thunder if she's actually your friend!

Yay congrats! Sorry to hear "you're on antibiotics". lol.

Agree, don't say anything to anyone. No one really pays any attention to what/ if other people are drinking, so if you fake it with bubbly water or some grape juice in a wine glass, no one will think twice. Keep your little secret safe with you for now

Say you are on antibiotics and you can't drink I wouldn't tell her

Congratulations! I think if the bride would be excited to hear this news it could make for a happier wedding day for her, especially if y’all are that close! And it could be a special secret between y’all. However, I would ask that she not tell anyone else, and you should just tell everyone else you aren’t drinking because you feel ill or have a headache or are on antibiotics. Or you could tell the bride you’re feeling ill too it’s totally up to you, being that you aren’t very far along!

Maybe bring it up to her the days leading up to the wedding so that way it’s not a announcement on the wedding day that way it doesn’t take away from anything the bride is doing

Congratulations!!! Don’t worry about not drinking. Weddings are so busy and such a blur. I honestly couldn’t tell you who in my wedding or bridal party was drinking or not I was constantly being pulled in so many directions. I doubt the bride will notice. I didn’t even drink on my wedding day just couldn’t find the time and no one bothered or questioned me about it. Just keep orange juice in your glass to look like mimosas and ginger ale to look like wine or bubbly

Have the bartender make you plain juice or sodas with a garnish and just say its a new mixed cocktail you're obsessed with! My go to when I was pregnant was always shirley temple. No need to tell anyone yet as it's early.

Congratulations!

I wouldn't tell her beforehand. In the days leading up to my wedding, so many people came to me with "so there's something I need to tell you", good and bad, that it all kind of melded into bad because I was also preoccupied with time, schedules, appointments, payments, etc.


She'll want to be happy for you, but it'll be another thing on her plate right now.
I had a bridesmaid who had just given birth and another who was breastfeeding. I had Welch's sparkling grape juice on our table for them or anyone who just didn't want an alcoholic drink during dinner. I can't tell you who drank it, if anyone did.
So I feel like you can drink plain water all night and the only people who'd realize are guests who you're chatting with at the reception. In which case, tummy troubles, antibiotics, or even "it's been a long day, I feel a little dehydrated" will get you off the hook without a second glance

I think you should wait to tell IMO. If it starts to be questioned you opt for saying I feel like I shouldn't since I took headache medicine earlier. (this trick worked for me for a long time when I was pregnant no one found out until almost 6 months.)

Sparkiling grape juice is your friend. and a quick whisper to the bartender. Im a fan of just carrying a bottle of beer around. I would also keep mum. news like that gets around FAST.

It really doesn't have to come out due to you not drinking, you can just say you're not drinking so you can keep your stamina throughout the day. I didn't drink at my sister's wedding for the same reason, and I brought sparkling apple cider for the champagne toasts and drank non-alcoholic 'wine' at the reception. Everyone will be focused on the wedding itself, not what you're drinking. I personally wouldn't tell the bride because she'll feel obligated to care for you on her day.