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Impatient with Long Engagement

Alexis, on January 8, 2019 at 12:39 PM Posted in Planning 0 6

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Hi everyone! I got engaged back on July 4, 2018, and after 5 months of being engaged, we finally settled on a date. We plan to pay in full for everything ourselves, so for financial as well as personal reasons, we chose a long engagement and are getting married on our 5 year anniversary: December 6, 2021. We toured a venue, back when we were undecided on a date, that is all-inclusive, and went back after deciding on our date to find that they were running a special discount on deposits, so of course we jumped to book and lock in our price. I mean it when this venue takes care of EVERYTHING, besides the obvious attire and a few other vendors they feel are more personal (photog & officiant). Since our wedding is so far out, it will be a while before we can really start working with what we have, but I'm just too excited and super impatient!! I'm trying to figure out how to space everything out so I can still enjoy the process without being frustrated.

I also really want to start looking at dresses, but I don't know when it would be appropriate to do so or to buy one. I've seen posts where brides purchase theirs as far as a year and a half out, but even then, I still have a year and a half to go before that point. What do I do?

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Latest activity by Maren, on January 9, 2019 at 2:15 PM

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FutureMrsKC · on January 8, 2019 at 12:49 PM
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Making a list and a timeline is the easiest way to stay on track and not get bored or stressed! Even create a budget timeline of when you plan to save and make deposits so you always feel in control of your money.
I was a bride who bought my dress a year and a half out. I was impatient and I wanted to know what I was wearing. Honestly, I could have waited, and I have grown more in my style and have changed my mind. Of course I love my dress that I'm wearing on my day, but if I went back to the salon I would have tried other things now. New styles also come out all of the time. Every season. There are so many newer dresses that take my breath away and had I waited, I might have gotten one of those.
There are certain aspects you don't want to plan too early because you could kick yourself later down the line. Good luck to you!
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MrsD · on January 8, 2019 at 12:49 PM
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I would start dress shopping 1 year - 1.5 years out. Then purchase anywhere for 10-12 months out. You have a lot of time to save & plan your honeymoon, maybe focus on that? If you can afford it, I've heard of people taking mini "pre" honeymoons prior to the wedding too?
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Crystal · on January 8, 2019 at 3:39 PM
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I was engaged for 3 years before we even talked about setting a date. Theres no reason to rush it.
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Maren · on January 8, 2019 at 6:27 PM
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Hi Alexis! Welcome to WeddingWire and congrats on your engagement!
You received some great insight here and I agree, dress shopping 1 year - 1.5 years out is a good plan. That way, you can purchase it and have ample time for fittings & alterations before the big day. Do you have any ideas of styles or silhouettes you might be interested in?
You have a good chunk of time to save and plan for your wedding & honeymoon, both, so perhaps focusing on those for now? In addition, it's never too early to start getting ideas down for specific details, researching venues, and saving inspo pics for decor & more, too.
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Alexis · on January 8, 2019 at 6:55 PM
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So far, I'm really loving either super boho, bell or flutter sleeves, vintage lace, all that, or really plain, simple, all white gowns like Meghan Markle style. Both styles in sheath/fit and flare silhouettes. I've got plans for saving and budgeting in place, but we are still trying to figure out precisely what we want to do for a honeymoon! Currently working on ideas for DIY favors. ❤
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Maren · on January 9, 2019 at 2:15 PM
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Hi Alexis! I love all of these styles & silhouettes!
That's great, it sounds like you have a great plan here!
What are your ideas for your DIY favors?
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